You’ve Just Been Told Your Beautiful Baby Has Down Syndrome. Where Do You Go From Here?


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(With Kara Shall, mama of 3)  Kara candidly shares her (and her family’s) journey with Down syndrome. She explains how they found out their son had an extra chromosome, how they responded (her answer will surprise you) & what the daily ins and outs are like. Kara’s outlook & approach to life are absolutely inspiring. Even if your little one doesn’t have an extra chromosome…the insight & perspective you’ll get as a mom are valuable. 

You’ll Also Learn:

  1. What you might expect if you have a baby with Down syndrome.
  2. Challenges that people with Down syndrome face, why and how to work through them.
  3. Tips on what to do if you’re expecting a baby with Down syndrome.

 Who is Kara Shall?

When Kara’s not chasing her 7-year old, 4-year old and 2 year old sons around the Detroit area.  Kara loves to bake ,decorate cakes and does not disappoint her kiddos each year when they challenge her cake-making skills with crazy birthday theme ideas. Kara and her hubby, Scott, live in the amazingly spectacular state of Michigan:) Kara’s OCD with her m&ms…she organizes them by even numbers into color groups before eating them. Links mentioned: Reece’s Rainbow & National Down Syndrome Society & “Gifts: Mothers Reflect on How Children With Down Syndrome Enrich Their Lives” (book)

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Kara Shall- Down Syndrome


Sarah Blight:               Hi. This is Sarah Blight with Your Baby Booty Interviews where we talk to talk to moms, dads and experts about the things they’ve learned about having kids in this whole baby space so that you can make better decisions faster. So today we’re talking about Down syndrome. So maybe you have found out that you’re expecting a baby with down syndrome or perhaps you’re considering adoption of a down syndrome child or maybe you’re just curious about what life is like with a family who has kids who have down syndrome. Well, today we’re chatting with Kara. She is the mother of three boys and one of them has Down syndrome. So we are going to get the scoop from Kara about what life is like for her family. So and hopefully, she’ll answer some questions that might just be things you’re wondering about, what to expect. So thank you, Kara for joining us today.

Kara Shall:                   Thanks. I’m excited.

Sarah Blight:               Thank you. So tell us about Henry. How old is he, what is he up to, what is his personality like?

Kara Shall:                   Henry is my youngest of three boys as you mentioned. He’s 22 months old and I have a 4-year old and a 7-year old as well. His personality is really coming out in the last few months I would say. He’s definitely showing his naughty side which is actually really fun to see because he had some medical set backs and so it’s just fun to see him coming out and having really strong personality. But he’s also just definitely my cuddly boy, my cuddly baby that my other boys just didn’t have time for or so. [Laughter] You know, they were just too busy on the go. He is always good for a hug. He want mommy all the time. So, he’s — yeah. [0:02:02] [Inaudible] [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Yeah. Okay. So let’s talk for a second about probably a common question that people want to know. How did you find out that Henry had Down syndrome and was it something that he was screened for, that you were screened for during your pregnancy? How did you find out?

Kara Shall:                   Well, my story I would think is probably not typical for how people find out. I almost always with other pregnancy so I always with my other pregnancies would refuse the — well, it used to the triple screen, the quad screen and I’m sure there’s a new name for it now. It’s the test advance, the technology advances but at the time it was the quad screen and I was planning to refuse it for Henry too but I did have an early ultrasound to rule put another anomaly that one of my previous children had had and we’d just wanted. So it was at twelve weeks which is really early. They ruled out the other anomaly that they happened to noticed by the back of his neck that the nuchal fold was really thick which at that point can be an indicator of a chromosomal abnormality. It could also mean nothing. But they really — because I was in that timeframe for the quad screen wanted to me to go ahead with the blood work just to see if that also had indicators pointing towards chromosomal problems.

So we went ahead with it because we’d just wanted to really see, you know, what that was and maybe even put our minds to rest that it was nothing. A few days later the blood work came back and showed that instead of just increasing our odds to 1 out of 3 our odds were increased to 1 out of 5. There is 1 in 5 chance that he would have either Down syndrome or Trisomy 18 or another chromosomal problem. So at that point we decided we needed to know for sure. It was going to change our decision about him and all. We’d just really wanted to know and be prepared for the baby we’re going to have. So we had a CVS test which is similar to amnio except they take a little piece of the placenta at that point because it’s so early. I was almost 13 weeks then. And I think it was DNA and so we knew definitively that we’re having a boy with Down syndrome. So that’s all about.

Sarah Blight:               So it’s started out with the ultrasound and then you’ve kind of chose, you know, that you wanted further testing to confirm.

Kara Shall:                   Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So what things went through your mind right away? What things were you thinking abut from the outset?

Kara Shall:                   Well, I think again my story is maybe not so typical but I think for a lot of people, it would be very difficult news to get but because we had had history our first child died of not a chromosomal problem but birth defect that we were really prepared for the worst and in our case we just felt like Down syndrome would be a good news at that point.


So our first reaction was relief and just total acceptance and excitement. Probably within 24 hours there was grief that really started to set in as the reality of it, you know. So again with us, you know, my husband and I were laying in bed when I said, “Is he going to live with us forever,” and it’s just, you know, that those types of things that you don’t expect with your children started to dawn on us. And you know, so we definitely went through a grieving morning period after the initial relief. 

Sarah Blight:               So yes, so the reality of Down syndrome, have you known kids who had Down syndrome? Did you know families? What’s your background if any with Down syndrome?

Kara Shall:                   Yeah. Well, I was a Special Ed teacher for eight years and I actually knew of kids with Down syndrome and I really had the pleasure of knowing so many fun and wonderful kids I worked at camps and I thought cool [0:06:08] [Phonetic].  We’d always had — I always had kids with Down syndrome in my class and you know, there was just a wide range. And so the reality in my mind, you know, I think a lot of people think if he’s a Down syndrome and they often think “Oh, they’re so sweet.” They’re all sweet or they’re all one with – they all went, you know, but I had known a lot of kids and they’re all different. And you know, I had had some kids who are very, very capable and very, very outgoing and social and you know, really successful. I also had kids in my class who just really struggle and even by middle school couldn’t talk, couldn’t communicate. And so it was scary and that’s still something on my mind that time although as Henry is growing I’m already noticing so much growth that those worries, you know, are going away a little, a little bit. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Well mothers always worry. I think –

Kara Shall:                   Yeah. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               You know, from the second that we become pregnant, it’s kind of we become a worrier I think.

Kara Shall:                   Yeah, that’s — yeah. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, but I’m sure your worries are maybe a bit different with Henry than they are with your other two kids.

Kara Shall:                   Definitely.

Sarah Blight:               So what was Henry like as a newborn? So when you delivered Henry and you gave birth, were there anything or any special things you had to do or think about or prepare for as you approach even giving birth?

Kara Shall:                   Really not really but mainly because we have found out  when I was pregnant that he had or before I was pregnant that he had Down syndrome, we had a fetal echocardiogram. So he had already had a really clear scan of his heart showing that he didn’t have a heart condition. Now that I’ve heard that it’s about 50/50, you know, about 50% of the people with Down syndrome are born with heart condition and some of those children are going to need surgery within their first year of life.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   So that was a  big concern and we, you know, we had the fetal echo and then after he was born, we had another echo just to make sure that everything was in fact clear and it was. We were very fortunate with that.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So you basically had a pretty typical labour and delivery you would say nothing extenuating. You felt the same pain. You gave birth in the same way –

Kara Shall:                   Well, I had a C-section because –

Sarah Blight:               Oh, okay.

Kara Shall:                   … I already had two. So we had a C-section plan.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

 Kara Shall:                  Now the only extenuating circumstances had nothing to do with Down syndrome. My husband was out of town and missed it. [Laughter] That was the only different I’ve been, nothing to do with Down syndrome. [Laughter] He did come early which in the Down syndrome, you know, blogging community that I’ve become a part of we do sort of see a trend that babies with Down syndrome do come early but it’s not true to all of them. But he did. He came at 37 weeks. So he was kind of early.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. And so your husband was caught unaware and was out of town?

Kara Shall:                   Yeah, he was being the best man in a wedding. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               And so he really was the best man at that point missing his child birth.

Kara Shall:                   Yeah. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               That is hilarious. Okay. So if there are — so what was Henry — we didn’t really — what was Henry like as a newborn? Was he –

Kara Shall:                   Sure. You know, I think having him be my third child I can say with confidence he was pretty much just like any other newborn. You know, the only difference between him and my other two was that he just never really got quick at the hang of breastfeeding and so I end up, you know, I gave a week or two and finally just decided that it was okay if we were going to bottle feed and that was really the only difference because he just gotten as pretty much more efficiently from a bottle and he got the hang of that right away. So we eliminated that and after that really he really didn’t have – Oh, I couldn’t notice any differences in the beginning.


Sarah Blight:               Okay. So did the differences have they started making themselves more clear to you as he is growing and then in what way is?

Kara Shall:                   Yeah, I sort of, you know, because I’ve become sort of part of the online community I was aware just from other parents which is so helpful just telling us that, you know, telling the new moms that the gap sort of start to wary in more at 1 year. You know, you notice just the early development and a lot of essential development that is typical for any newborn. You know, babies with Down syndrome are often very socially up to par and really can hang with that. So all those tings that you see in your newborn doing that excite you, smiling and you know, imitating and things that that was Henry  did all that and almost always on time. I think at 12 months the gap starts to widen more because typically a baby with Down syndrome isn’t walking until they’re 2 years old.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   So right now, you know, Henry as I mentioned is 22months and so he’s not walking. He can’t stand unassisted yet. He could pull himself up to stand. In fact he’s my climber. He had climbed up the steps just fine but he can’t get down. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Nice.

Kara Shall:                   He’s definitely a strong guy just his strength is like upper body, you know. [Laughter] He’s just not – he doesn’t quite got the hang of that lower stuff yet. So he’s not standing, not walking but it’s common.

Sarah Blight:               So what is it about the walking that I guess is typical for Down syndrome babies? Why is that that he’s not walking yet?

Kara Shall:                   Well, they do have low muscle tone and that is the main really that’s the main reason why he wasn’t breastfeeding and that’s the main reason why it’s more difficult for him to talk. A lot of people if you see with people with Down syndrome and you notice that it looks like they have a big tongue. It’s not actually true that their tongues are bigger. They just have low muscle tones so their tongues tend to hang out more.

 Sarah Blight:              Okay.

Kara Shall:                   And so their mouth hangs open and they have that, you know, open mouth. So a lot of his therapists like the occupational therapist and the speech therapist work really hard on strengthening all of his muscles in his mouth and so his PT, his physical therapists are working on the walking because it really he has a little tone everywhere in his body inside and out.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   So and all his problems are pretty much low tone really.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So let’s talk about that now you mentioned the occupational therapy, physical therapy. I have seen videos of him walking in his treadmill which is just I loved it.

Kara Shall:                   Yeah, I do love it but [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, I’m sure it’s not as really.


Sarah Blight:               Yeah. So did you know that you needed to have kind of those people in place as you were pregnant? Did you have a specialist who helped to kind of lead you through this journey of having a baby with Down syndrome?

Kara Shall:                   You know, no. We didn’t. I knew that he would need that. Because of my background in Special Ed, I just knew that that would be coming. I did not really know what was available though and I sure didn’t know how to contact people.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   I’m very fortunate to live in a state. I live in Pennsylvania. I live where — I think they do a good job with therapist but I don’t think every state is the same. I can’t speak specifically but I have lived in a couple other states and I don’t really know that it’s the same everywhere. We were contacted at the hospital but well, it was the hospital social worker.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   She filled out all the paperwork for us and got the ball rolling so that we would be connected with early intervention services right away.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   And they came out probably when he was 2 months old and did an evaluation  because it’s really not much they do before 2 months, you know. They did an eval and they started just with the occupational therapy at first.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   And we’ve gradually increased.

Sarah Blight:               And is that something that you can’t necessarily access or get a referral for really until your baby is born? I mean –

Kara Shall:                   Yeah, I think – basically, yeah, you can’t really — you can plan ahead and get phone numbers which is a great idea and I did — I had a friend who gave me all the phone numbers because she used early intervention. So she sort of helped me get all that ready in case I need it and then I was just lucky enough that I didn’t end up needing it because the hospital I gave — I delivered at was so great about helping with it.


But I do think if you’re pregnant and expecting a baby with a disability that having this phone numbers ready in case you don’t have somebody to do it for you, doing ahead of time is great.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. And is his occupational therapy is that something that’s provided by the state of Pennsylvania for you guys?

Kara Shall:                   It’s at the county I guess and I don’t really know exactly how of anything works but they — it’s the county who provides all his therapies.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   Yeah. So then he has six therapists right now.

Sarah Blight:               Wow, okay. And so he has occupational, physical. What other kind of therapists?

Kara Shall:                   He had two physical therapists. So he had an aquatic PT –

 Sarah Blight:              Oh, okay.

Kara Shall:                   … and then a regular PT who comes to our house. The occupational therapist who comes to our house. He has the speech the therapist and he has a special instructor.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   Is that five or six? Maybe that’s five.

Sarah Blight:               Yeah. Well, in any rate more –

Kara Shall:                   A lot. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, it’s a handful, yes, a lot. So for Henry and receiving the therapy, do you feel like I mean do you see the progress? Do you feel like you’re seeing like results at this point?

Kara Shall:                   Oh yeah, I mean without them — I called them his Dream Team because, you know, I don’t know how to put it. Even with my background I didn’t feel like I knew what an infant with Down syndrome would be. I mean these people that we have in this life are just absolutely incredible. We have — he is making so much progress with communication right now. [Coughing] That really took off in the last maybe 4 months but he has 25 words and 25 signs –

Sarah Blight:               Wow.

Kara Shall:                   … in his vocabulary and it’s all because of the intensive therapy. I mean he has a therapist everyday at our house working with him. Excuse me.

Sarah Blight:               Wow, that’s okay. So in what as having Henry specifically with his Down syndrome changed your family?

Kara Shall:                   Wow, you know, I think if anything we all appreciate each other so much because of Henry, we are intense people [Laughter] and we’re kind of hot heads all of us and he is not and he’s — I mean intense but he’s mostly intensely cute and just sweet and naughty. [Laughter] But also I mean he’s just really make us — he makes us smile and we could all be frustrated with each other about something and Henry will do something cute and the rest of us will just melt, you know, and he is just joy in a boy I always say that. And he makes us so happy and appreciate each other so much.

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, I can totally see just your face light up when you talk about him. Oh, all just your kid — I know you love your kids but –

Kara Shall:                   Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               So how do you think how your boys responded? I mean they’re still — I mean you have a 7-year old and a 4-year old. So –

Kara Shall:                   Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               You know, they may be starting to be more aware of social norms or you know, differences. Do they notice that there’s anything, you know, wrong with Henry?

Kara Shall:                   You know –

Sarah Blight:               I mean wrong in like in a social set not any –

Kara Shall:                   No, it’s good. That’s okay. No, our 4-year old definitely doesn’t but he hears us talk about it a lot and he always talks about the therapists, you know. He’ll say, “The therapist is here,” you know. [Laughter] So he knows that that’s not something he gets, you know, but he knows that there’s a difference but I don’t think he gets why. I think he thinks that because Henry is a baby and they’re all going to teach him how to do everything.

Sarah Blight:               Right. [Laughter]

Kara Shall:                   You know. [Laughter] My 7-year old now, he was 5 when Henry was born and he’s definitely aware. I waited until he asked. I didn’t want to point it out.  I waited until he asked. And really he asked because he’s such a listener and he heard me say something about Down syndrome and he have heard me say the words [Coughing] several times. But one day he finally said, “What is Down syndrome?” And I just gave him the medical definition of it being an extra chromosome and that Henry just have an extra chromosome and the rest of us don’t in our family. And he was just kind of just like, okay, you know. It’s a matter of facts.

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, so I want to go back earlier in the interview when you said, you mentioned your blogging community and I’m kind of picking up that this is a major part of your journey or has become. How important is that aspects that piece of this puzzle for you?


Kara Shall:                   I wish I had more time to put in to it. I have my own blog actually and I haven’t actually added anything to it in so long. Even just thru Facebook, I have a lot of Facebook friends that I don’t really know in person but they are just other parents of kids with Down syndrome. And it is so just gives me so much hope to see kids at all different ages and what they’re doing and where they’re going. There is so much advocacy. I mean the internet is really provided this huge way to advocate for people with Down syndrome and advocate for the R-word to be eliminated from people’s vocabularies and I mean I’m just so grateful that Henry lives in a time where that’s happening and that maybe when he’s an adult, that wouldn’t even be something people say or you know, people’s perceptions of him I think are going to be very different because of the internet. I’m really grateful for it.

Sarah Blight:               That is amazing. You’re right. That’s amazing. So what are some of the biggest misconceptions about Down syndrome?

Kara Shall:                   I think the biggest misconception or at least for a parent who gets that diagnosis I think that the first worry is how different your child is going to be and if I can say anything about Henry is that he is more the same than anything. I mean not a day goes by that it cross my mind of course he has Down syndrome, who have all the therapies, you know.

Sarah Blight:               Right.

Kara Shall:                   But it’s just not that big of a deal and he’s just like any other kid and he’s so funny and he jokes and he — I mean he’s just the same. And I think that’s one of the biggest misconception is that your baby will be so different and he’s — honestly, he’s just not. I think another misconception could often be that, okay, well if a person who has a Down syndrome then they are always smiling or they’re always stubborn and  again, because they’re not so different  from the rest of us, that’s not true. I mean they are their own individual people and I still work in the field of people with disabilities. I’ve still see people with Down syndrome almost everyday who are adult and they’re all very different. [Laughter] They all have different abilities and aspirations and they’re just like the rest of us –

Sarah Blight:               Right.

Kara Shall:                   … in some way.

Sarah Blight:               So you’re kind of how you grow up, you know. It can be as big of an influence as your “disability” is, you know.

Kara Shall:                   Absolutely. [Laughter] Definitely, yeah.

Sarah Blight:               That’s really insightful. Is there anything that you really if this kind of goes hand in hand with the question that I just asked but is there anything you want people to know about Down syndrome? Another than and I do need to say this, you did say in your e-mail it’s not Downs syndrome. It’s Down without an S, Down syndrome.

 Kara Shall:                  Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               Because sometimes I’ve heard people say oh Downs or whatever but it’s not. It’s Down, Down syndrome.

Kara Shall:                   Right, it’s more of a pet peeves type of thing especially parents, you know, we want people  to get it right and, you know, saying Down syndrome  but also first and first language is really important and it’s not just PC but just when you’re talking about a person’s child with Down syndrome, say child with Down syndrome, you know, a lot of people will say, “Oh, he’s a Down,” or “She’s a Down.” And it just set immediately places them in a box that isn’t fair. It’s just not fair, you know, to put that somebody in that box, put a label on it. “Oh she’s a Down.” You know? It’s just like me saying, “Oh, that’s that cancer lady.” [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Right.

Kara Shall:                   You know? There’s no difference. So –

Sarah Blight:               That is a great –

Kara Shall:                   That’s one thing I really want to get out and make sure that people understand.

Sarah Blight:               So your kid is no different. He has an extra chromosome. He still has a personality. He’s so spunky. He’s a kid.

Kara Shall:                   Totally, yeah.

Sarah Blight:               He had — he’s a human being.

Kara Shall:                   He’s hilarious. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               He’s hilarious. I can tell from the picture he’s just — he’s quite — has quite the personality. He’s just like the rest of the kids. So don’t, you know, don’t treat him any differently than you would, you know, anyone else’s kid.

Kara Shall:                   Anyone else, yeah.

Sarah Blight:               And I’m sure as they grow up, you’re doing them a huge favor because, you know, you’re not setting them on this box even you’re just — they’re just one of the kids and they’re not being really set up for failure, you know, by doing that.

Kara Shall:                   Right, I mean same expectations in terms of, you know, he’s not allowed to pull my hair that’s kind of a thing we’re going through right now, you know. We’re not going to spoiled the heck out of him and just let him, you know, do everyone’s because we feel bad for. We don’t need to, you know –


Sarah Blight:               Right and I have –

Kara Shall:                   With us –

Sarah Blight:               And I have a 22-month old who just totally yanked the cord [0:25:08] [Phonetic] out of my hair the other day and just slapped my face yesterday because he didn’t want to do what I want, you know. I mean that’s just very like age appropriate but non-acceptable behavior that you have to correct.

Kara Shall:                   Exactly, yeah. So far it’s hard to tell any baby no but, you know, he hears it. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, yeah. He actually knows. 

Kara Shall:                   It won’t be cute when he’s 18. [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter] So if people are watching right now and they’re either preparing to adopt a child with Down syndrome or preparing to birth one or you just know people who have Down syndrome, what resources are there to really start this journey and get connected?

Kara Shall:                   Well I’m glad you mentioned the adoption. One charity that I just think is amazing is called Reece’s Rainbow and they placed babies with Down syndrome from other countries with families. I guess in the US probably in other places too. I haven’t really thought about that. Mostly US families I guess and they just do something amazing things because in other countries, you know, depending on the country, there are so many places that are so far behind and how do they view people with Down syndrome or anybody with the disability and by age 5 and a lot of those countries they are, you know, committed to an institution for the rest of their life and so there are such a great need for people to adopt these children and I definitely have a heart for that and really would love for people to know about Reece’s Rainbow.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Kara Shall:                   In terms of, you know, what resources are out there families if they get the diagnosis, the National Down Syndrome Society has a good website and I love that they has something. It’s pretty new in the last couple of years called “My Great Story” and you can click just different stories, personal accounts of either written down by a person with Down syndrome or about a person with Down syndrome about, you know, some great story about their life. And I love it because it shows what I was talking about that they’re all different. They’re all, you know, that the same as we are and just how capable they can be and that so many of them are. Another book that I really love is called Gifts and I don’t know the author is but –

Sarah Blight:               It’s okay. I’ll put a link at the bottom. So it’s fine.

Kara Shall:                   Yeah, oh great. Yeah, so I love that. There’s actually two or three by now. I have the first two Gifts book and it’s again, personal stories of how people found out, what they thought then and how they feel now and it was such a great thing for me to read while I was pregnant because it addresses all those feelings of grace when you first find out and then a picture and a story of what their kid is doing now and just so much hope. There is so much hope. I love those books.

Sarah Blight:               So it sounds like where you were. You allowed yourself some grieving time, you know, at the beginning and you’re at a point where you’re just you feel hopeful and you know that there is a wonderful future end for your son.

Kara Shall:                   Oh absolutely and we have high hopes for him. I mean high hopes that his brothers will just grow up with him, you know, as long as they need to as well. They adore him. High hopes for all of them.

Sarah Blight:               Well, I want to thank you so much. We’re going to end on that note for sharing your story and for giving us the glimpse in to Henry. And I’d just want to say for those of you who are watching, if you have any   questions or comments about this topic, please feel free to leave a comment below the video and we will make sure your questions are answered. Again, check out the links at the bottom of this interview. The Reece’s Rainbow links, the National Down Syndrome Society and as well as the Gifts books, all those links are down there for you to access. And I want to thank you again for joining us and we will see you next time. Thanks.

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  • humbled by this interview

    Amazing interview. Totally inspiring. You know something I’ve noticed, many parents who have beautiful kiddos with “challenges” have much better relationships & dare I say richer lives? I have 2 kiddos without any official “challenges”, but that’s not true b/c their “challenges” just show up in a different form. As loving parents, we push them in so many directions, have demands, want things for them they don’t even want for themselves. On & on…year after year. Maybe we push too much and don’t connect with where we are today. And that time slips by forever. I see such strength in so many kiddos with “challenges” & in there remarkable parents. I learn something about myself every time I’m hanging out with a kiddo with “challenges”.
    It’s me who’s challenged. It’s me who needs “help”. I have so much to learn.

    • yourbabybooty

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts:)