How My Emotions Controlled My Labor & How Yours Will Too


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(With Jill Klaiber, mama of 4) Jill was no stranger to giving birth. She was pregnant with number 3 & was all set for a super fast labor, then delivery. After all, isn’t the 3rd one said to fly out like a rocket? Of course they are. :)

Active labor kicked in. But Jill didn’t know it. Her contractions weren’t quite right & she knew something was off. Jill realized her husband’s absence was affecting everything she was trying to do (he was busy floating on a boat in the Mediterranean Gulf-  an aircraft carrier). Her emotions hi-jacked her labor. Her mind controlled her body which controlled her birth. Her labor stalled. 

Jill shares how she finally identified what was holding her back & how she sped labor back on track. She teaches you how you can too. Your “mind body connection” is real. As real as you gaining weight.  

It’s your amazing body’s physiology. It’s proven science.Your mind makes a cocktail of chemicals (hormones) that your blood carries to the most important  muscles directly affecting your birth (uterus, etc.). Fewer contractions. More contractions. More efficient contractions. Less efficient contractions. Faster labor. Slower labor. More pain, less pain or even no pain. Your mind affects the outcome of labor & birth.

Why do you think the best professional athletes consider their “mental game” far more important than their “physical game”? 

YourBabyBooty How do emotions control labor & birthYou’re giving birth. You’re an athlete! The real question…

Do you acknowledge all the advantages your own mind gives you during labor & birth (& know how to use them)… or will you ignore science & hope someone else hands you a healthy baby? What you feed your mind matters (learn to be fearless). You can learn how to steer your labor & birth away from unwanted interventions & “failure to progress”…you just have to want to know how. You can do it!

You’ll Also Learn:

  1. What “deciding to let the baby out” means…
  2. What the cliche “you can do anything you put your mind to” really means in your birth 
  3. How to identify mind blocks that will influence your labor.
  4. If people you don’t know, trust or deep down really want around, while laboring, can add 45 minutes each to your labor.
  5. Tools to keep your labor on track & progressing.

Who is Jill Klaiber?

Jill Klaiber is the mama to four kiddos. She’s also the wife of a Navy guy, which means being a single mama at times & an all around rock star. Jill recently became addicted to afternoon coffee & the show Mad Men.  The Klaibers are currently stationed in Californ-i-a.


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Jill Klaiber- How My Emotions Controlled My Labor

Sarah Blight:               Sarah Blight from where some of the world’s leading experts and real moms share their most important lessons learned so that you can be confident and know what to expect in your pregnancy in child birth so you could have the best experience possible. Well, we’ve been getting tons of e-mails from pregnant mamas all over the place wanting to know how they can have the shortest labor with the least amount…least amount of interventions possible. And so, our goal for you today in this interview is number one, that you can see how your mental, your mind-body connection really can play in to and prolong your labor and also specific tools you can have at your disposal to really minimize the length of labor and give you that really good experience that you’re hoping for. So, today we are joined by Jill Klaiber. She’s the mama of three kids and she is a navy wife. And she’s going to share her story with us today. Thank you so much, Jill for joining us.

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah, thanks for including me in this.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So, in your pre-interview, you mentioned that, “My body had been trying to have a baby but my mind was not letting my body do its job.” We hear a lot about the mind-body connection but I mean is there really something to that? Share with us what happens.

Jill Klaiber:                  Well, it was crazy to start with.

Jill Klaiber:                  First of all, I have two other kids and have their labors and mommy [0:01:34] [Phonetic] with them and deliveries were very short. They were unmedicated and so, by number three, I thought this baby is just going to shoot out. It’s going to be so fast. I’m not going make it through a hospital but it turned out to be a lot different than that and the reason was because, well, my husband is a navy as you mentioned and he was on an aircraft carrier and he will deploy two months before our baby was due. So, I was doing this alone but technically, I want to had a doula, my mom and a good friend from San Diego with me in, you know, at the hospital but my birthing partner wasn’t there. So, he – anyway, it was a little nerve-wracking and I was…I was very sad about it. But I didn’t realized really how sad I was until pre-labor started. And so, basically what…what happened was I knew the stages of labor. I knew what to expect because I had two kids. I knew –

Sarah Blight:               You –

Jill Klaiber:                  You know –

Sarah Blight:               Yeah, I was going to say you said that you had the typical like textbook labors –

Jill Klaiber:                  Right.

Sarah Blight:               …that you’re probably two sets kind of what you are just –

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               …like, yeah, it’s just going to happen and I know that I got this. I know this –

Jill Klaiber:                  Exactly, exactly. So, I knew how I was progressing with those two labors. I knew kind of where I was or I knew that, you know, at 7 centimeters transition starts and you start shaking and you get, you know, nauseas, and all those kinds of things. Well, it just didn’t happen that way with her and so I started to wonder what was going on. So, my pre-labor started on a Thursday night. It took almost two full days till Saturday before my active labor started which was very in characteristic so but already had me a little bit nervous. And then by the time active labor started, I didn’t actually really know what had started because it was so a typical for me in textbook lives but basically, when I started talking to my mom and my friend a little bit, just kind of realized, you know, I had dealt with a lot of the sadness of Chris not being here and realized that was – oops.

Sarah Blight:               Is that one of your children?

Jill Klaiber:                  No, my computer went to sleep.

Sarah Blight:               Oh, I can still see you and hear you.

Jill Klaiber:                  Oh, okay.

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  [Audio Glitch] Anyway, apologize.

Sarah Blight:               No problem.

Jill Klaiber:                  So, active labor had began but I didn’t really realize because the contractions weren’t getting closer together and you know, typical is as they get closer after 2 minutes apart and you go to the hospital and you have baby.

Sarah Blight:               Right.

Jill Klaiber:                  You were never closer than 5 minutes apart.

Sarah Blight:               Hah.

Jill Klaiber:                  Those are strange. So, I didn’t know how far I was long dilated again because, you know, between 5 and 7 is when active labor is supposed to be going and I just didn’t know if I should go at the hospital or not. So, finally, we decided to go just to get checked and then I could ease my mind and know where I stood whether I needed to stay at the hospital or come back and labor at home which was my – what I, you know, preferred to do before I was too far along.


Sarah Blight:               Uh huh.

Jill Klaiber:                  Anyway, so I decided to call my husband on the ship and when I did that I did it for two reasons. One to tell him that I have gone in the hospital because I e-mailed him previously like two days before I had my labor and he’s like [Sigh]

Sarah Blight:               I haven’t heard anything. [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  He was like really, you know, I had a few e-mail back and forth with him and then finally call him on a ship and it was to tell him what’s going on and to tell him – to make sure that I could get a hold of him because I think that was my anxiety was really over not being able to get a hold of him on the phone. I had all the phone numbers, I had – you know, I knew how to call in but I was just anxious about it. So I –

Sarah Blight:               Yeah.

Jill Klaiber:                  …call in. He – I got a hold of him. Told him I was going and then I started crying — [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  You know, and I can’t help but think about it.

Sarah Blight:               Oh [Laughter]. And then I’ll cry because you’re crying and then everyone watching is going to be crying. It’s okay. It’s all right. It’s okay to cry. [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  So, he – I got a hold of him and then my – I relaxed and I allowed my emotions to just come through and it was like this bubbling to the surface of feelings that I had just pushed down because when you’re a navy wife and you have two other kids and you – it’s the first appointment I ever have with kids, you suck it up and you say, “I can do it,” and you even be strong and you know, you’re just kind of shut those feelings down and like, “I can do this. I’ve got this.” And you didn’t really…I didn’t really let myself feel until I talked to him on the phone and it was really happening and like my God, I was really sad. And as I started to cry, I choked it back a little but I realized that that moment as I’m choking it back that I shouldn’t do that and I couldn’t do that if I wanted to have this baby that day if I wanted to let this baby out, my mind and body were fighting against this.

So, it was like, “Okay, I talked to him. I knew I could get a hold of him. So, that little piece got chipped away.” And it was like layers. It was like an onion. I just had to let these layers of fear and sadness peel off as, you know, to go forward. And so that’s kind of how I was fighting against…against each other and that my body was like, trying to contract, trying to, you know, progress forward and my mind was like “But he’s not here,” you know, and “I can’t do this,” about – I mean all those kinds of fears and sadness, the anxiety and things I didn’t even realized I was feeling were starting to…start to bubble a little –

Sarah Blight:               So, you mentioned letting the baby out. So, what happened once you kind of let it out, once you let your emotions out and as we all know when you’re pregnant, you have a lot of emotions that you normally maybe don’t express or don’t feel anyway but once you – how did you let the baby out?

Jill Klaiber:                  Well, like I said it was a layering effect. So, as I…as I just – the next step after I talked to my husband, I hung up and we went…I went downstairs and I told my friend I need to cry. I need to pray and you know, I want somewhat – I to need confess like how I’m feeling and name it and verbalize it so that I can let it out. And so we went down and you know, in my couch and we just sat there and I talked through it and pray through it and cry a lot more than I had on the phone and literally, after I hung up the phone with him and after we finished praying my labor like in two instances my contractions got stronger. They like they were ramped up and I said, “Okay, it’s time to go to the hospital.” [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  So, and I was starting to feel a little bit more normal like my contractions were coming and I have to stop, you know, breathe and then continue walking to the car or whatever.

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  [Laughter] And so…so, that was kind of how – as it progress, every time that something – a worry would fall away or – how do I describe it –

Sarah Blight:               You mentioned in your…you mentioned in your pre-interview, it seemed like something just like clicked in your head.

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah –

Sarah Blight:               And then you got to the hospital -

Jill Klaiber:                  Right –

Sarah Blight:               And like –

Jill Klaiber:                  It’s one towards actually that like when actually she was ready to be born and I was in transition and I remember thinking, “Okay, Chris is on the line,” because he’s finally, you know, after a couple of phone calls and everytime I talk to him, I’m able to progress and then when he hang up and then, “Okay, text me when you’re…when it’s go time.”

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  Okay [Laughter]. So, I finally – it’s go time and he’s on the line. The doctor comes. He’s there. I see them willing and all the equipment for delivery, you know, a big light comes down from the ceiling.

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  He checks me finally and we weren’t sure if water broke in. So, he checks me. He says, “Your water is pretty sure is broken. In fact it is — you’re nine and nine and a half. So, we’ll just wait for some push contractions.” And that’s when it went, “Oh, I’m there.” Okay. In two contractions, I lay there I had a baby. No kidding.


Sarah Blight:               Wow.

Jill Klaiber:                  So –

Sarah Blight:               And Chris was on the phone.

Jill Klaiber:                  Chris was on the phone and he actually hears everything. Her, you know, her first cries. Her, you know, our excitement and then he got to name her which is great. No, I haven’t told anyone her name. So, he named her over a speaker phone and you know, that…that was the fun part. But the clicking was just like, oh, like I’m waiting for all the stars on the line and ducks in a row for no reason really but I mean that was how I was feeling and it’s like anxious, intense about is everything okay and everything ready. Is this, you know, can I birth this baby now? So, it’s just kind of in my head I feel like I said to myself or heard the voice say to me, “It’s time. Let’s go. You can do this,” like you know.

Sarah Blight:               Interesting. Okay. So, your video is little so right now what we can hear you just fine.

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               So, we’re just going to let your video even like in slow-mo for the last couple of minutes.

Jill Klaiber:                  Okay.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So, a lot of moms are watching right now saying to themselves, “Wow, that’s really cool. But my husband isn’t on an aircraft carrier. He’s right here. He’s works 15 minutes away. He probably will be there most likely.” What’s the main takeaway that you really want to communicate to the mamas watching that, you know, this idea of deciding to let your baby out? You talked about –


Sarah Blight:               …in your pre-interview your…your dad had always told you –

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah, that’s right.

Sarah Blight:               …you can do anything that you put your mind to.

Jill Klaiber:                  That’s right, yeah.

Sarah Blight:               And I think a lot of us have kind of heard that like –

Jill Klaiber:                  Right.

Sarah Blight:               …you can do anything you put your mind to. What does that really…what is that look like in birth?

Jill Klaiber:                  So, okay…so for me I guess it wasn’t – first of all, knowing how my body works was main – like the main confidence. I mean you gain your confidence from knowledge and education and you know, we’re in – I feel like we need to know the anatomy and physiology of how labor happens, the hormones that trigger labor, the hormones that trigger, you know, that we – send endorphins hormones that trigger like the…the pain, covering the pain, you know, that – in the stressful moms that help get your baby going, you know, there’s a lot of anatomy and physiology involved. So, when you know that, you know what your body is doing, you’re not afraid of it and you’re not holding back and not letting it [Audio Glitch] happen.

Sarah Blight:               Uh huh and then you also said your doula had shared a stat with you. Can you share that?

Jill Klaiber:                  Oh that – that is fantastic and I couldn’t believe I said – internal and external circumstance can affect your stress. I mean we know that. So how are you feeling or whatever is around you, you know, makes you feel certainly and gives you the stress or so like one of the things she mentioned was the more people you have in your room that you not…that you don’t trust, you’re not comfortable with, you have 45 minutes to your labor. So, if your mom stresses you out, don’t let your mom. So [Audio Glitch] if, you know, your father-in-law wants to come by and which I had heard him saying, no. You know, [Audio Glitch]

Sarah Blight:               Yeah.

Jill Klaiber:                  No. So –

Sarah Blight:               Yeah.

Jill Klaiber:                  …you know, you need to be comfortable who’s on the room with you. For us it was just my husband, our doula and my doctor was a midwife. So, you know, as long as you feel safe and confident and comfortable, then, you know, hopefully, will not add those minutes to your labor.

Sarah Blight:               So –

Jill Klaiber:                  That’s so true and we had a photographer there and I wondered if that helped and added to my stress too because I wanted things to go well so she could get photos for him –

Sarah Blight:               Yeah.

Jill Klaiber:                  …you know? Stuff like that but I mean mainly it was the fact that he wasn’t there and the sadness of just how much – I just couldn’t believe how much my anxiety, fear, sadness really did slow down everything. And then, again, my labors are not – and that labor for Molly was – the pre-labor was what that’s really long for us and it was like two days. And once I got to the hospital, it was really only 6 hours. So, that’s relatively not that long. But she could have probably come a lot quicker, you know, and I wouldn’t have had so much, you know –

Sarah Blight:               Angst –

Jill Klaiber:                  Angst, exactly.

Sarah Blight:               Yeah. So, you had mentioned one of the tools and I think this is fantastic is to name your fears. Why do you name your fears? Because – I mean I think most women have some kind of fears surrounding pregnancy and child birth. Why is it important to name it?

Jill Klaiber:                  Because you name it, you can deal with it. You can and you call it out and you can say – you can decide how you’re going to heal or you can – but for example, if I am afraid that I’m not going to be a good mom but I don’t really know that that’s what my fear is but I kind of think of, you know, you kind of – oh, how to describe it.


You come today and you think about your fears and what your – anything I could possibly be afraid at all and maybe that comes out and you name it. You say, “You know what? I think I’m really wasn’t – I’m afraid I’m not going to take care of this baby well. I’m not going to be a good mom.”And you name it and you’re like, wait a second. That’s not true. And you can call it out and say, “No, I’m not…I’m not going to believe.” That’s basically – fears are kind of like lies in a way that, you know, that you’re believing that but it’s just not true. Or a fear of the unknown like is it going to hurt? Is to going to be painful? Well, yes but there are ways to manage your pain and if you have, you know, for example, I had a doula and a midwife and was taught how to manage pain for unmedicated birth. Anyway, I have a plan and I can execute it as needed for to dealing with those different fears. So, there’s a ton of fears you can obviously that new moms – whether you’re a first-time mom or not can have but if you name it, call it out, you can deal with it.

Sarah Blight:               So, naming it and calling it out takes the power away from the fear and gives it to you.

Jill Klaiber:                  Exactly.

Sarah Blight:               And empowers you in your birth.

Jill Klaiber:                  Agree.

Sarah Blight:               That’s very cool. Okay. So, you’re very well-read, you’re well-versed. So, I’m kind of surprised [Laughter] that you were kind of unaware of this. So, what is that – what was your takeaway from this?

Jill Klaiber:                  Well, I mean I went in to it saying, “This baby is going to lock out, you know, it’s not going to come out.” [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter] I’m a birthing lawyer. I’ve been there — [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  But every birth is different.

Sarah Blight:               Yeah.

Jill Klaiber:                  I mean you can have 19 kids and counting and every birth is different, okay, you know? So, the – it’s a different baby. It’s a different kid and different circumstances will dictate your birth. And so for me, yeah, I knew I was scared and…and knew I was sad but I didn’t realize that I had let it out and dealt with it. Like I say you put on a happy face and you’re like, no, I can do this.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So, explain to us physiologically what is happening inside your body? What do you know about why Molly was not coming out?

Jill Klaiber:                  This – I also learned from my amazing doulas and you know, shout out to birth inside [0:17:23] [Phonetic] in Virginia Beach –

Sarah Blight:               Nice.

Jill Klaiber:                  But –

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  …they taught us that when you are a relaxed, calm, peaceful laboring mama that your uterus contracts and the baby is being crushed out because your muscles in your uterus are contracting vertically. So, your body may speak saying, “Mama must – mama is relaxed. So, I must be safe.” So, time like it – it’s carnal instinct, you know, that your body has to say, “You’re safe. You can have this baby. Just relax. The contractions come and let the baby out.” Well, when your body is stress or you’re stress, there’s things that you’re afraid and you’re holding back, your uterus actually contracts horizontally because your body is saying, “Uh uh, it’s not safe. Mama doesn’t feel safe. So, we can’t…we can’t let this proceed because baby is not going to be safe and born in this, you know, environment wherever mom is feeling and seeing, you know.” So, it’s just like amazing way your body works –

Sarah Blight:               Wow.

Jill Klaiber:                  …to be able to protect you and your baby. But you see often and I – I don’t know the statistic but a lot of, you know, hospital births doctor will say, “Oh, it’s a failure to progress because mom’s not dilating enough and not progressing in labor,” and a lot of that it could…is…in my opinion, I’m sure there’s statistics out there and you have it I’m sure in Your Baby Booty but there are people or moms are not feeling safe and not knowing, you know, relaxed. And so, they’re stressing and their uterus is pulling that baby in, trapping horizontally and not allowing labor to progress.

Sarah Blight:               That’s really cool. So, it’s your body knows what to do without you even having to think about it. I mean your body is protecting you and your baby regardless of whether you think you are or not. It’s just –

Jill Klaiber:                  Right.

Sarah Blight:               …automatically happening. Okay. So, let’s give mama some tools. Let’s give them some things that they can do to keep progressing in labor to get that baby out. [Laughter] So –

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               …you mentioned the first thing was to be educated. Give us some examples what is that mean.

Jill Klaiber:                  Well, in my experience I — for my first baby, I took a birthing – or maybe medical center –

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  …not recommended [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               Okay and why – why wouldn’t –


Sarah Blight:               Why wouldn’t you recommend it?

Jill Klaiber:                  …I won’t recommend it because they just give you like — this is how the hospital works.


Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Jill Klaiber:                  It’s not necessarily, this is how your body works.

Sarah Blight:               Good point, okay.

Jill Klaiber:                  So, in my experience it was like here’s the protocol which a lot of medicine is just protocol. It’s not what in my opinion should be like physiological and anatomical this is how your body works. I mean they may talk about transition and you know, stages of labor but I learned the most from the class that I took from our doulas so much earlier and they – I mean they just –

Sarah Blight:               You gave us two examples of what –

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               …they show you which is like wow –

Jill Klaiber:                  It’s great. So –

Sarah Blight:               Who knew your…your uterus contract like this and like this and get that –

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah.

Sarah Blight:               …baby out. Okay.

Jill Klaiber:                  Right. So, I find a birth class outside of a hospital. Well, they may have a great one at the hospital but find one that teaches you about your body works not just how hospital works.

Sarah Blight:               Great point. You mentioned books.

Jill Klaiber:                  Yes.

Sarah Blight:               What kind of books are – don’t books kind of make you fearful and –

Jill Klaiber:                  They can, it depends on the ones you picked.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  The first one I read is kind of a funny book. It’s called the Girlfriends’ Guide to Pregnancy. It was like a real big just overview of the basics.

Sarah Blight:               Okay.

Jill Klaiber:                  I started there. I also read Ricki Lake’s book and Abby Epstein’s book Your Best Birth which it describes all, you know, possibilities at birth. I think that they lean toward unmedicated but, you know, every mama has to make their own decision on what they’re coming through and really want to do. So – but you have to make decisions what is best for you and your baby and I think being educated through books and classes and online resources like yours –  

Sarah Blight:               Ta-da. Yes.

Jill Klaiber:                  …they are perfect. So, yeah, lots of info.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. You also have mentioned to ask questions. When you don’t know, you don’t know. So, how are mamas going to know what they should ask?

Jill Klaiber:                  Well, sometimes unfortunately, the experience is the only way. It’s like –

Sarah Blight:               [Laughter] Yeah –

Jill Klaiber:                  However, there are ways like, again, with, you know, the internet there’s a lot of ways to find out what you don’t know. So, you could Google, “What should I…what questions to ask for pregnancy I was going to –


Sarah Blight:               Ask your girl friends who’ve been there.

Jill Klaiber:                  Ask your girl friends who’ve been there. They’ve been through the experiences and then of course, again, like there are – your site has a list of questions that –

Sarah Blight:               We do have a –


Jill Klaiber:                  …can ask.

Sarah Blight:               Yes, we have a downloadable list. That’s a good place to start to.

Jill Klaiber:                  Thanks.

Sarah Blight:               Okay. So, you also say, you know, don’t be fearful. Okay. So, that’s like, you know, that’s so much easier said than done. I mean we all have fears going in to this. So, what are tangibles ways that mamas can really just get rid of it? You had mentioned name your feelings.

Jill Klaiber:                  Uh huh.

Sarah Blight:               Number one –

Jill Klaiber:                  You name your feelings, let them go. Let them out. You know, talk with your partner about them. Maybe he’s got fears too and you can both work it out and get closer before baby is born. But – excuse me – I think –

Sarah Blight:               You –

Jill Klaiber:                  I’m sorry.

Sarah Blight:               Oh, I was going to say you also mentioned trust yourself. What does that mean?

Jill Klaiber:                  Well, again, by knowing how your body is supposed to work and women’s bodies do fail them. I’m not going to say, “If you do all these, you actually will have a perfect labor.” Your body still cannot pick up. But if you know how it works, you know how it supposed to work and you can trust that in your, you know, that your body is made to birth the baby as a woman, you know, you can let it do what it’s made to do and your…your partner, your husband or whoever is with you like can encourage that too. You know, when you start to say, “I can’t do it. I can’t do it.” You know, they can say, “Oh, yes, you can.” That was one thing my husband was so great at. He sent to me my…during my first labor and that, “I can’t do it. I need epidural [0:24:03] [Phonetic].” He’s like, “No. You can do this and you are doing this. You will finish this. You can do it.” And it was like another click in the head like, “Oh yeah, I am doing it. I got to do it. I am doing it –

Sarah Blight:               Right, yeah. [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  So — [Laughter]

Sarah Blight:               That’s a really – good for him.

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah, it’s empowering and –

Sarah Blight:               Mr. Studmuffin [0:24:22] [Phonetic], wow. Okay. So, to kind of put it all together and wrap this up, when should mamas really start identifying? You obviously kind of identified your fears and named them and cried it out in the middle of labor which looking back, would you do that differently? When should mamas really start this process?

Jill Klaiber:                  Yeah, I remember talking with the midwife about this because they start early. I mean they, you know, maybe in mid pregnancy but you can start as early as you’re ready for but you know, as soon as you find out you’re pregnant, you can probably look at that saying, “Oh, my God. Oh my gosh. How could to…”


Sarah Blight:               [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  You know what I mean? There is – your fears can begin at any point and so, you deal with in whatever point you’re in. I mean you have to work through it when you’re – as you’re ready. In every, you know, situation for every mamas going to do it differently but if you can name it as early as you can, deal with it throughout and you’ll have one, takes it and deal with it and hopefully, get it behind you and left for a labor, you know. But there are signs when you have something that come up like, “Oh, my gosh, things aren’t going the way I planned and I didn’t want that appease on you,” or whatever, you know, something happened that you can’t control and you didn’t want, you know, being able to in the moment, its okay.

You know, and letting yourself be okay with however birth situation you’d ends up to be because even though we plan and we practice and we, you know, do our breathing exercise it or whatever, it’s still might not exactly how you planned it and that’s why you have to be flexible and willing to let go of some things sometimes for your health and the health of the baby and that’s why you need to pick a good provider and you trust so that you can be able to let those things go and allow your baby to…to born with.

Sarah Blight:               Wow –

Jill Klaiber:                  So, I don’t know –

Sarah Blight:               Thank you so much –


Sarah Blight:               No, that’s awesome. That’s a great advice. The takeaway being that it never too early, deal with fears as they come. Most likely we will have fears. I know, I still do as a parent going through. So, you really learning a skill that will serve you well throughout the course of parenthood, you know, beginning with pregnancy and letting it out and naming it and taking away its power will help your body physiologically and biologically to shoot that baby out. [Laughter]

Jill Klaiber:                  Yes, correct –

Sarah Blight:               So, thank you so much, Jill for sharing your experience. I know your hubby is gone right now and your daughter turns 1 tomorrow. Happy birthday –

Jill Klaiber:                  Yes, she is –

Sarah Blight:               …to Molly. We’re so happy for you and happy for you and your hubby to be reunited hopefully soon.

Jill Klaiber:                  Yes.

Sarah Blight:               To all the mamas who are watching, if you have any experiences you’d like to share, we’d love a dialog with you. We e-mail you or reply right back to you comments. So, leave them for us and we’re happy to talk to you. Thanks mamas for watching and see you soon. Thanks again, Jill.

  • Shannon

    So thankful I watched this! Thanks for sharing Jill! I’ve never thought about what you experienced and what you talked about. I need to write down my anxieties and see how many bubble up. I was going to let my husband’s mom come to the birth even though I’ve never been comfortable with the idea. I just didn’t want to leave her out and make waves ya know? That will be changing. I love her and all, but I know it will effect me. She always does :) Such good info. Thank you thank you thank you!!

    • yourbabybooty

      That’s a big one Shannon…when we realize that these things literally have an impact on the way labor unfolds is a FANTASTIC reason we can have (and should have) boundaries and protect our space from people who may upset the balance:) Bravo for recognizing that now instead of later!

  • CJ

    This is “a real thing”! Same thing happened to me. I was on a deadline for birth, unprepared to be a mother, and with a provider I didn’t trust. Once I got rid of the provider and the deadline and found some peace about the next chapter in my life ( all of which took about four hours one day), I went into labor. I truly believe my body was “holding on” to my baby until the other stuff was cleared away.

    • yourbabybooty

      what’s so interesting is that we know we have a mind-body connection with other things but we forget about it as it pertains to birth! Yours and Jill’s are perfect examples of “peace of mind” allowing labor to progress. Once you understand that our bodies were created that way on purpose, it makes all the sense in the world!