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Breastfeeding Must Knows

Monday, January 2nd, 2012

Hey guys, did you know that as we prepare to launch our new Your Baby Booty website, we are posting short videos on YouTube about lots of different topics?

We made this short 2 minute video about breastfeeding after I interviewed an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant who explained why your breasts should be considered the 8th Wonder of the World. It’s fascinating.

In this video you’ll learn things like WHY:

-Your blood volume doubles while pregs.

-Your nipples are like self-cleaning ovens. (Thank God there’s something that cleans itself).

-Colostrum is a super food for your baby and why it’s super duper important for your little one to drink this liquid gold.

 

Click here to play!

 

Top 10 Blog Posts You Must Read (for 2011)

Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

1. “Breastfeeding, my little slice of hell” – as author/blogger Amy Morrison writes, breastfeeding isn’t always simple, uncomplicated and intuitive, but it’s worth it.

2. “The Lowdown on Cloth Dipaers”- if you’re thinking of using cloth diapers, our guest writer, new mama and cloth diaper addict shares her experiences with many types and brands. Don’t miss this one.

3. “DIY Nursery Art”- You don’t have to pay a fortune to make your little one’s pad look like a million bucks. Here are great, easy ideas to make your own nursery art, even if you’re not the next Rembrandt.

4. “Pregancy with Twins, the Unexpected Twists & Turns”- Booty Blogger Valentina shares very candidly her personal experience with infertility, IVF, and then pregnancy, with TWINS!

5. “What to Expect When She’s Expecting”- written from a man’s point of view, this post is not to be missed:) Pass it on to the men in your life.

6. “Reading to Your Baby Can…”- book lover and blogger Vanessa from Silly Eagle Books shares how reading can impact your little bundle of joy, in the best ways!

7. “10 Things Never to Say to a Pregnant Woman”- there are things that should never be said, aloud, to a woman who is pregnant. Period.

8.  “Adopted, We’re a Family”- the adoption journey of one family, so touching and honest.

9. “Babywearing Rocks, Literally”- there are many many benefits (besides being hands-free) for you and your little one when you wear them.

10. “Stages of Pregnancy”- let’s be honest. There are stages of pregnancy, some more fun and flattering than others.

For 2012, is there any topic YOU would like us to write about? Please share below and have a Happy New Year!

Tuesday, December 20th, 2011

How about getting just a Tylenol after you’ve had a c-section?

‘Tis the season when most of us take a look around and realize that despite our sometimes stressful lives and circumstances, we have a lot to be thankful for and a whole lot more than so many others.

Here at Your Baby Booty, we really love helping people. It’s our passion and our calling. What you may  not know is that we’ve partnered with an amazing (and small) non-profit called African Mothers Health Initiatives in Malawi Africa that is doing HUGE things. But they still need our help!

Malawi is one of the poorest countries in Africa and for several reasons ie government corruption, decreasing foreign aid, an extreme fuel shortage- the poorest of the poor continue to struggle. Imagine being a poor mama who had to have an emergency c-section, the only pain meds you’ll receive after your major surgery is a Tylenol.  Even the most basic antibiotics, medical supplies and medical care is a DREAM for most of the women in Malawi.

A little orphan being cared for by his ailing grandma needs some extra nutrition & assistance

The deaths of mamas in Malawi is increasing and more babies are being orphaned and left to be cared for by impoverished and unequipped families. This is the reason that African Mothers Health Initiatives exists and they are needed NOW more than EVER!

AMHI educates the village about hygiene & caring for newborns & vulnerable mamas.

AMHI educates, equips, gives needed medicine, formula and aid to vulnerable mamas as well as orphaned babies.  They have both a Mother Care Program and a Baby Care Program with full and part-time nurses who go to these tiny villages and give very basic and very needed care.

Will you help? Since fuel is over $9.00 a gallon over there (yikes!) and formula is crazy expensive, it takes about $75 per month to support one baby orphan with formula and basic care. But any amount you can donate, literally every penny of it, will go to helping! Every bit counts!  Please help us help these mamas and babies:)

Click here to find out more and donate:)

Founder Joanne Chiwaula has lots of babies & mamas who depend on her and her non-profit.

 

 

 

Can I do THIS while pregnant?

Friday, November 18th, 2011

 

Can I do THIS while pregnant?

So you’ve just found out you’re pregs and the hormones are coursing through your veins like it’s in the Indy 500. You sit down to eat your favorite deli sandwich when your friend, mama of 6 kids gives you a strange looks and says “you’re not really going to eat that when you’re pregnant are you?”  You panic. “What? This is news to me!” You frantically start looking stuff up on the internet but it’s not so easy to find. Then you start wondering what else you’re “not supposed to do when pregnant.” Well mamas, we’ve put together a list of items that are commonly brought to a preggo mama’s attention, by friends, family and strangers alike- but we tell you the whole scoop- so you can make your own, very educated decision before you stuff your face with a plate full of sushi

1.       Can I Eat lunch meat and soft cheese while pregnant?

Here’s the skinny on lunch meat and soft cheeses…it’s comes down to Listeria, a really gnarly bacteria that can contaminate foods. Listeria is found in water and soil- with some animals becoming carriers.  The lowdown is that it can be found in veggies and uncooked meats and unpasteurized cheeses. Because there is a chance that contamination can occur after packaging, there is a chance that hot dogs and deli meats can contain it. Are you gagging yet?  According to the Center for Disease control, preggos are more susceptible to becoming infected than non-preggos (mostly because preggo’s immune systems are suppressed during pregnancy).

If you do get sick with Listeria-

You’ll have mild flu like symptoms

You’re at an increased risk for miscarriage, premature labor, or infecting your newborn baby.

You’ll probably be put on antibiotics to nip it in the bud.

Bottom Line-

The American Pregnancy Association recommends pregnant women stay away from lunch meat unless you are reheating it yourself (to kill those buggers) or eating it in a casserole or some other concoction that’s been in the oven. Restaurants like Subway have pregger alternatives like Meatball Subs or Roasted Chicken sandwiches.

As far as soft cheeses are concerned. Check the packaging- most, if not all soft cheeses in the U.S. are pasteurized which means you should be a-okay. But again, eating hard cheese is always a good option as well.

2.       Can I drink caffeine and/or wine while pregnant?

Most newly pregnant women drink one or both of the above and may feel that it’s cruel to be cut off from them simultaneously. Preggos, do not lose heart.

The research is actually very conflicting in regards to consuming caffeine while pregnant. The March of Dimes, a non-profit that researches the problems that babies encounter, recommends that you consume no more than 200 mg of caffeine per day while pregnant, that’s basically a 12 oz cup of coffee. That doesn’t sound soooo bad.

One thing to keep in mind is that caffeine is found in lots of stuff other than coffee- caffeine is also found in tea, chocolate, some over the counter medications, some plants even produce caffeine naturally.

How about beer or wine?

There are studies out there that show that moms who drank as little as one glass of wine a week while preggers, gave birth to children who were smaller, leaner and had a smaller head circumference (smaller brain) than those who didn’t drink at all. There are also studies that show the children of mamas who drank as little as one drink a week were more aggressive and had some behavior problems. 

As with anything you consume, the alcohol passes through your organs and you have a new organ now- the placenta- which is supplying your baby with food, nutrients, vitamins and also acts as a sewer system too. Your developing baby doesn’t have the ability to process the alcohol as quickly and efficiently as you do, so the elevated alcohol level will stay there longer and be much higher than yours.

 Bottom Line-

Drinking wine when pregnant is considered taboo here in the U.S. If you do decide to go out in public and have a drink, be prepared to be refused by bartenders and get some raised eyebrows and possibly some snarky comments.

Caffeine, for the same reasons as alcohol, isn’t awesome to consume when pregnant either. Especially since it is addictive and when you breastfeed after baby is born, you won’t want to be drinking the fully leaded coffee/tea or you and baby will never sleep. Yawn.

 

3.       Can I Eat sushi while I’m pregnant?

I’m a sushi lover and was always forlorn when people reminded me I couldn’t eat sushi when pregs. I always wondered “well what do people in Japan do when they’re pregnant? Just eat rice?”

The concerns about consuming sushi when pregnant stem from high mercury levels and bacteria that can loom in uncooked fish. (see what we had to say about Listeria in our lunch meat, soft cheese break down).

The National Resource Defense Council compiled a list of the fish that’s high in mercury that you should stay away from, and the stuff that’s lower in Mercury and therefore safe for preggo consumption.

 

LOWER MERCURY- Safe for Preggo
Akagai (ark shell)
Anago (conger eel)
Aoyagi (round clam)
Awabi (abalone)
Ayu (sweetfish)
Ebi (shrimp)
Hamaguri (clam)
Hamo (pike conger; sea eel)
Hatahata (sandfish)
Himo (ark shell)
Hokkigai (surf clam) A surf clam just sound cool, eh
Hotategai (scallop)
Ika (squid)
Ikura (salmon roe)
Kaibashira (shellfish)
Kani (crab)
Karei (flatfish)
Kohada (gizzard shad) OMG, that sounds good!
Masago (smelt egg)
Masu (trout)
Mirugai (surf clam)
Sake (salmon)
Sayori (halfbeak)
Shako (mantis shrimp)
Tai (sea bream)
Tairagai (razor-shell clam)
Tako (octopus)
Tobikko (flying fish egg)- what the H is that anyways?
Torigai (cockle)
Tsubugai (shellfish)
Unagi (freshwater eel) 1
Uni (sea urchin roe)

HIGH MERCURY- Stay Away From
Ahi (yellowfin tuna)
Aji (horse mackerel)
Buri (adult yellowtail)
Hamachi (young yellowtail)
Inada (very young yellowtail) Is that like eating Bambi of the sea??
Kanpachi (very young yellowtail)
Katsuo (bonito)
Kajiki (swordfish)
Maguro (bigeye, Bluefin  or yellowfin tuna)
Makjiki (blue marlin)
Meji (young bigeye, Bluefin  or yellowfin tuna)
Saba (mackerel)
Sawara (Spanish mackerel)
Seigo (young sea bass)
Shiro (albacore tuna)
Suzuki (sea bass)
Toro (bigeye, Bluefin  or yellowfin tuna)

Bottom Line-

Most fish contains nutrients and vitamins that are good for you and your growing bundle of joy- and not all sushi is uncooked.

Itadakimasu!

4.       Can I Go running or ride a bike while pregnant?

Exercising during pregnancy is like salt n’ peppa (chocolate & peanut butter is a way better example says my husband). The two just go together. While it may feel like you have to be super careful so as not to jostle your little bean about in your womb- you do not, in fact, have to worry. Early on in your pregnancy your sweet pea is safely enclosed by the bones of your pelvis, so activities such as riding a bike or even riding horses are safe (as long as you don’t fall off) during pregnancy.

Bottom Line-

As you progress in your pregnancy and your belly grows, you’ll find that you may have to adjust your stride, or your exercise routine in general as shortness of breath is common and your center of gravity has changed. Make sure to listen to your body- if you feel tired or winded or tightness in your belly, STOP.

Otherwise, carry-on mama.

PS We chat about swimming here.

 

5.       Can I take hot baths while pregnant?

Hot baths? Yes.

Hot Tubs? Maybe not.

Physicians caution pregnant mamas about getting overheated when using hot tubs. Since most hot tubs are 104 degrees, it can only take 10 minutes to raise your core body temp to 102- which is dangerous territory for a preggo.

Why shouldn’t my body temp be over 102?  Studies show that the risk of birth defects increases when a preggo is HOT (as in temp).

Bottom Line-

If you want to relax, use your bath tub.

 

6.       Can I use antibiotics while pregnant?

The simple (and short) answer on this is to ask your health care provider. They’ll need to prescribe the drugs anyway. There are  plenty of options of antibiotics that are deemed “okay” for preggo mama and baby.

Bottom Line-

Chat with your doc and decide if you really really NEED them. Then make the call.

 

7.       Can I go on roller coasters when pregnant?

While I, personally, can’t even imagine wanting to hop on a roller coaster when pregs, there may be some thrill enthusiasts out there who are all about it ‘bout it.

I have a feeling if you ask your health care provider they will tell you a rousing “hell to the no” mama- this stems from concerns of abrupt starts and stops, and the jarring which can actually result in the placenta separating from the wall of your uterus (placental abruption) which means baby isn’t getting oxygen. Not good.

Bottom Line-

If you feel sad about missing out on roller coasters for the next 10 months or so, do not fear: pregnancy is the ultimate thrill ride. You’ll be on a roller coaster of hormones that makes the Loch Ness Monster at Busch Gardens look like child’s play. You might even barf.

 

8.       Can I change the cat litter while pregnant?

Those of you who have kitty cats, pass the kitty litter changing duty baton to your partner for the next year or so (or milk it and make it forever).

There’s a long, scientific-y word called “toxoplasmosis” involved. Toxoplasmosis is an infection caused by a parasite called Toxoplasma gondii- are you gagging yet? This parasite is found in cat poop.

Bottom Line-

If you’re the Lone Ranger on poopy-scoopy duty, the CDC recommends you wear gloves when changing the litter and make sure to wash your hands thoroughly when done.

And please, for the love, don’t handle stray cats.

 

9.    Can I take cold/sleeping meds when pregnant?

When you have your first appointment with your health care provider, you should get a list of over-the-counter meds that your Doctor/Midwife deems safe. If you haven’t found your “soul mate” yet and need some suggestions pronto, let me know, I’ll share the list I received from my health care provider.

There are over the counter and herbal remedies for all of the following:

Allergies, Headache/Sinus, Upset Stomach, Constipation, Diarrhea, Nausea, Sore Throat, Cough, Sleeplessness, Heartburn

 Bottom Line-

Consult with your health care provider to  make sure you’re getting the right stuff. Preggo friendly meds do exist. Help is on the way!

 

10. Can I dye my hair while pregnant?

The good ole U.S. Federal Government is pretty lax (actually it doesn’t regulate at all) the cosmetics and hair industry in our great country. While this is great if you’re a cosmetics company, it’s not so awesome if you’re looking for safety in your products.

The dealio with hair dyes is that they contain (gasp) chemicals. Since the skin absorbs 60% of what is put on it (your scalp is “skin”), it’s important to be aware of what you slather on your body.  The most notorious players in dyes are Ammonia- irritates skin & lungs – and PPD (p-Phenylenediamine) which is linked to immune and nervous system issues and according to Wikipedia, was voted Allergen of the Year in 2006 by the American Contact Dermatitis Society- what an honor!

If you go to a salon, see if they have PPD-free hair dye, or opt for low-lights or high-lights. If you do-it-yourself at home, look for PPD-free hair dyes, or simply the organic brands which use less chemicals overall. A great resource is the Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep database- which rates the safety of cosmetics (including hair dyes) and is super easy to use and navigate.

Bottom Line- Whatever you put on your skin is absorbed into your blood, which becomes your baby’s blood. Because all the effects of chemicals are unknown, it’s best to minimize their use. But don’t freak mamas, as a person who started going gray in my twenties, I understand your need to not look like an aging hipster when preggo. There are safe options like Henna for coloring your hair. Or go to a health food store and go for one of their hair dye products.

 

11. Can I Use nail polish when pregnant?

This is the same thing with hair dyes.  Your nails are skin and do absorb some of what you put on them. Lots of nail polishes contain three main (sketchy) chemicals:

Phthalates- or plastic which is used to prevent chipping. Phthalates are a proven hormone disruptor and can affect reproduction.
Formaldehyde – used to harden the nails, and makes me think of dead frogs- is a cancer-causing chemical.
Toluene- helps the polish glide on easily, and is linked to nervous system disorders.

The bummer about these ingredients is that you will not know if they are in your products just by reading the labels. Instead, go to The Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep database and look up the brand of polish you use and see what’s in it.

There are plenty of organic, vegan, green options BUT the downside is since they don’t contain all those handy-dandy cancer-causing chemicals, they aren’t always super convenient to apply or remove.

Bottom Line- same as bottom line above mama.

 

12. Can I Go tanning when pregnant?

So you’d like for your white, body to be tan- but you’re preggo? What do you do?

Well, as with the Hot Tub scenario, the heat/body temperature issue is the main concern with tanning (whether it’s in a bed, or on the beach, or nude in your back yard). The other issue is that some research has shown a link between UV Rays and folic acid deficiency (folic acid prevents neural tube defects in your baby like spina bifida).

Bottom Line-

Since it’s more difficult to regulate the temperature inside a tanning bed, than say, when you’re sitting out on the beach under an umbrella- it’s advisable to stay away from the tanning bed and go for the sunless tanner route instead.

As with everything cosmetic related- check out The Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep database to see what safe options you have with sunless tanners.

Then pray you don’t end up orange.

 

13. Can I Paint when pregnant?

We know you have a million “to-dos” on your “please hunny, do (right now) list”.  We also know that lots of you mommies are turbo and don’t necessarily want to wait around for your spouse to get ‘er done. BUT.

When it comes to painting the baby’s nursery- or furniture- or the myriad of other painting projects— wait for hubs, or hire someone.

There are actually no research studies on the effects of household painting on the unborn baby. But, since there are chemicals involved and those float around the air for you to inhale- it’s probably best for you not to go there.

Definitely don’t attempt to remove paint from a house that may have had lead paint- and don’t sand the walls either- chemicals and solvents in the air are bad news bears for your lungs and your growing baby.

If you absolutely have to paint and don’t have friends or family you can bribe to help you- then

  1. Choose non-toxic paints.
  2. Have windows open and fans on.
  3. It wouldn’t hurt to wear a mask over your mouth and nose.
  4. Take breaks, often.
  5. Keep your food and drinks away from the stink- the last thing you need is contaminated food.

 

14. Should I Drink Green Tea while pregnant?

People always say that Green Tea is the bomb-diggity because of its antioxidants. But experts disagree about whether preggos should consume.

Here’s why:

Green tea contains caffeine- about 30% less than, say, coffee- but caffeine nonetheless.

Green tea always contains an enzyme called EGCG which interacts with another enzyme called DHFR , which deactivates the DHFR. The reason this is a problem is because it reduces the folate (the vitamin vital to good spinal health for baby).

Bottom Line-

So the moral to the story- look for decaf green tea, and a cup a day is certainly not going to be harmful.

Moderation in all things—see a theme here?

PS There’s also a helpful book called Nursing Mother’s Herbal which gives the low-down on all things herbal when you’re breastfeeding. Chock full of great info.

 

15. Can I fly on airplanes while pregnant?

If you do not have a high risk pregnancy the answer is YES. You can travel by car, bus, train, or boat too if you’d like. If you are considered “high risk”, have a chat with your healthcare provider.

While traveling (especially long distances) can get more uncomfortable as you progress in your pregnancy, there certainly isn’t anything about flying at high altitudes that will negatively impact your baby. Most airlines are jiggy when you fly up until your 8th month and then request a good ole fashioned doctors note if you’re in your 9th month.

Bottom Line-

Even though everyone will tell you that for your first kid, you will deliver after your due date, I am a perfect  example of that not being the case. My first-born son came (on his own) three weeks before his due date.  So keep that in mind mamas- if you don’t, we may see you on the news:)

 

16. Ca I get a Flu Shot when pregnant?

Many healthcare providers give mamas the old guilt trip about having the flu shot- since you are your baby’s world- you should protect yourself and your baby, etc. And the CDC (Centers for Disease Control) in 1994, made their most aggressive policy change to date- that all preggos should be vaccinated at any stage in their pregnancy. It is true that your immune system is suppressed while you’re pregnant- your body is busy doing other things like making milk, making your baby, pumping extra blood etc.

Research shows that the flu vaccine is only marginally effective at preventing the flu. Some doctors say that most of the symptoms of the “flu” aren’t actually the influenza virus, but other viruses, or bacteria. The CDC evaluates the most threatening strains each flu season and chooses 3 to vaccinate against. It’s pretty much a crap shoot as to if you get the flu, if you’ll be “lucky” enough to get one of the three you were vaccinated against.

Bottom Line-

If you do decide to get the flu shot, make sure to request a Thimerosal (Mercury) free one. Thimersol is commonly used as a preservative in immunizations. There are of course conflicting studies that Mercury has been linked to Autism.  I’ll admit, it is a bit confusing. On the one hand, during pregnancy (and even after) we are told by our doctors to be careful about how much mercury we consume in fish, right? (see sushi list above) And now we’re advised to get a flu shot which may have mercury in it?

So be sure to request a Thimerasol free one. Here’s a list to help guide you.

Also, if you opt for the vaccine, get the shot, NOT the nasal spray.  The shot has the inactivated virus in it, while the nasal spray has the live virus.


Look we’ve been making babies for thousands of years…and let’s be real, most of us are going to have a sip of alcohol or caffeine from time to time, or indulge in a bite of sushi or do other things that aren’t considered “perfect”. The point is that we don’t consistently do things on a regular basis that increase the chance for problems. Common sense also tells us the best way to deal with a problem is to avoid it, so flu shot for example…if you don’t really need one, then why mess with unnecessary stuff.

You are now armed and dangerous. You have the info and additional resources to make the right, educated decision for you but more importantly, your BABY.

Tell us what your experience with any or all of the above is below.  Did we miss anything you would like to know about?

Adopted: We’re a family

Monday, November 14th, 2011

*If you missed the first part of this story, go here. Thanks again Heather for sharing your adoption journey with us!

 

Adopted: We’re a family

by Heather Franklin

Kofi came home on November 1, 2011. Our world has forever been changed by this spunky, inquisitive, funny & loving 3-year-old.  He is everything I hoped for & much, much more.  Kofi adores his baby brother Booker – shares his toys, sings him songs & showers him with affection.  He cleans up his toys without being asked & insists on helping Mommy with household chores.

And boy, is this kid smart!  He can count to 20, knows his ABC’s & is always ready to learn a new lesson.  You might be hard-pressed to find a mommy as proud as me.

Until the moment I saw the whites of his eyes, I was a nervous wreck.

Every single step of the adoption process was riddled with some combination of mistakes, missing paperwork, technical issues & red tape.  Family & friends suggest that I view Kofi’s adoption process as a labor of love.

Speaking from experience, natural childbirth is much less painful. While laboring Booker, I felt in control & knew that I would have my baby in my arms very soon. With Kofi, the promise of my child took more than a year longer than anticipated.  The longing & heartache was only compounded once we had legally adopted him on June 21, 2011.  If I could have, I would have given birth to him a hundred times over to bring him home.

I have loved Kofi from the moment I saw his photo on the waiting child registry but once I was able to hold him I fell head-over-heels in love. His sweet giggles & the way he says “Mommy I love you so much!” make my heart melt.  Watching his patience with Booker & eagerness to always be a good boy fills me with pride. Listening to him tell friends & family that his name is Kofi Franklin and that his house is the same as Mommy’s, Daddy’s & baby Booker gives me great comfort that he feels right at home.

We have encountered a few challenges: fear of the dog, difficulty with new foods, insisting that he is not tired – ever & calling his dad “Derek” rather than “Daddy.”  Nothing out of the ordinary for a 3-year-old little boy.

Kofi remembers where he came from & the hardships of his previous home. He tells us about his friends at the orphanage – those who have papas & those “who have nobodys.” After telling us about his friends, he told us that he has “Daddy Derek, Mommy & baby Booker.” The first morning he woke in his new bed he gave his Derek a big hug and said “thank you Daddy, I love you so much.”  He is full of gratitude for things we take for granted: family, food, clothing, shoes, books & toys. On the one hand, it’s nice to have an appreciative child. On the other, it’s heart-breaking that he is so aware of these things.

I cherish the months that I spent alone with Booker. Everything about becoming a Mother to a newborn has been wonderful: pregnancy, labor, nursing, the weeks we spent burrowed away together in bed & witnessing this little life develop.  I am so grateful that I got to have this one-on-one time with Booker & will admit that I felt a sense of loss in the days before Kofi arrived. I felt that I would lose this special bond & that I couldn’t possibly give both boys all of me because they had such different needs.

Logically, I knew this was wrong but the knot in my gut remained.

I am happy to say that I was wrong. The moment I had my boys in my arms the knot disappeared & my heart doubled in capacity.  Kofi has added so much joy, fun, energy & depth to our family. The whole family wakes every morning excited for the day ahead.  Singing & giggles now fill every silence. The house feels alive with children playing & spontaneous dancing.

What a wonderful life!

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More about our Guest Contributor:

Heather Franklin is a 27 year old Oregon native living in New Jersey.  She is a math nerd with a Master of Public Health in Biostatistics & Epidemiology currently debating whether or not to complete her Doctorate from which she is now on leave.  New mother to 3-year-old Kofi & 6-month-old Booker and happily married to Derek, an amazing artist, cook, handyman, husband & father.  In addition to child rearing, Heather spends her time tending to 4 chickens, 4 cats, 1 dog & a large garden.

10 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me- Before I Had Kids

Friday, November 11th, 2011

By Vanessa Rough of Silly Eagle Books

10 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me…

 Before I had kids

I was unaware of many things baby and kid-related. I had a lot of friends who had kids, yet somehow, no one ever told me. I thought I’d share some of these “secrets” with you today.

1. There is a kid’s section in the library. You can bring babies there. If they scream, no one really cares because they are too busy being glad that it’s your kid screaming and not their own.

2. You don’t need to buy toys for your kids. They much prefer playing with non-toys such as hair brushes, wooden spoons, plastic food storage containers and whatever it is you are holding in your hand at the moment.

3. Babies grow out of size 1 diapers REALLY quickly. I mean fast. Don’t stock up on those–you only need a few packages before they grow into size 2.

4. If your house is average-sized, you don’t need a monitor. A crying baby will make sure you hear him. Trust me.

5. Put your money in a good stroller. You’ll use it for at least 3 years (if not more), so you want one that is sturdy and will stand up to lots of wear and tear and crush cheerio + apple-juice stains.

6. Your baby doesn’t have to be old enough to play with other kids to get you into a play group. In most cases, the play groups are just as much for the moms and dads as for the kids. If play groups sound fun to you, don’t wait until your kid can walk or talk, just find a group and join in.

7. Once they start eating table food, babies will surprise you with the things they enjoy eating: green olives, grapefruit, and even bread crusts. The things my preschooler turns her nose up at are the same things my one-year-old can’t get enough of.

8. You will have to break down and do some exercise and sit-ups if you ever want to get rid of the belly fat. It won’t magically disappear like you keep hoping it will…(Maybe this just applies to me, but I thought I’d share it anyway.)

9. It’s okay if the belly fat doesn’t go away even if you do some sit-ups. You’re still beautiful.

10. Motherhood is a fantastic ride. There is no way to prepare fully for it except to enter with an open mind and an open heart.

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Vanessa is the mother of two beautiful girls–Juliet and Lucia. Before she was a mom, she spent her days teaching a little bit of English and a lot more “please be quiet” to high school students and her nights…wait for it…SLEEPING. Now her days are spent reading books, crafting, and chasing the cat around the house while her nights are filled with significantly less sleep and a lot more “please be quiet.” She writes about children’s books, crafting, and learning activities for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers at Silly Eagle Books.

National Adoption Awareness Month

Monday, November 7th, 2011

by Sarah Blight Author of Going to the MotherLand and Founder of Your Baby Booty.com

 

National Adoption Awareness Month

Did you know that November is National Adoption Awareness Month? The specific focus of this month is adoption from foster care but seriously, awareness about ANY adoption is pretty much awesome and needed.

We have compiled a few places to go to learn more about adoption, families who are or have adopted and things you can do during this month of November!

1. Adoption.com has this pretty cool calendar with ideas of things you can do every day during November. A great place to start.

2. MLJ Adoptions has great info on their website and their blog.

3. Project Hopeful- a super neat organization that educates, encourages and helps people to advocate for and adopt children with HIV/AIDS.

 

Adoption Blogs I Heart.

Matt & Kara Adopt- this cute couple is awesome. I have a feeling we’d be fast friends if we lived in their neck of the woods. They have documented their roller coaster of a ride with adoption, recently being notified that their son they were adopting had been born only to find out the adoptive mother had decided to keep him. The way they share their life, their experiences is really beautiful. Definitely a top pick for adoption blogs.

No Greater Joy Mom- another incredible adoptive family.  This family has adopted 4 kiddos, most (if not all) with special needs. They have 3 biological children as well.  The mama, Adeye, advocates for children that really need help on her blog. This family eats, sleeps and breathes compassion, love and the beautiful tapestry that adoption creates.

The Salvant 7- This family adopted 2 boys from Haiti and then a couple years later realized that their calling was to go back to Haiti to live and serve.  They moved their family of 7 recently and are adjusting to life in a very different world.

We Have Room- Follow these 30 something parents and their 10-going on 11 kids (4 via the belly, 6 via adoption). Need I say more?

Bringing Hope Home- Another darling family who has recently adopted a their son from Eastern Europe who also happens to have Down Syndrome. Very inspiring.

Welcome to My Brain- a fun, funky, dare I say “fresh” blog where things are discussed in a very up front and (sometimes) quite funny way. This family has 5 kiddos, some from the belly, some from adoption and the parents of this ship are the experts in Therapeautic Parenting, if you want to find out what that is, and think you might/ could use it, check out their blog:)

Thrasher Home- a young family with the dream of adoption, documenting their life and journey along the way. I love the artsy, fartsy-ness of their blog and their honesty too. Plus they make cute buttons like this.

Round 2

These blogs and couple websites should get you on your way. If adoption isn’t part of your calling, how about donating to someone else’s adoption?  There are tons of families who are fundraising right now to bring their sons and daughters home. Consider making a large or small donation, several of the blogs mentioned above will write about families who need help to raise the funds.

 

Do you guys have any favorite sites you love about adoption? Let me know what I missed!

 

 

My Top 10 Must-Haves: The First 3 Months

Tuesday, October 25th, 2011

By Valentina Pollard of Just Breathe

My Top 10 Must-Haves: The First 3 Months

Daphne and Poppy are now 3 months old! I cannot believe it. They have been home from the NICU for longer than they were there…and the days are flying by (although some more smoothly than others). During this time there have been some items that have made our lives much, much easier. I have listed my very favorite must-haves below. Please note that this list is made with twins in mind. Of course, it applies to all babies (just don’t buy as much if you have one baby instead of two…or buy more if you have three or four)!

 10. Baby Trend Double Snap N Go Stroller. Confession: We have three double strollers. Two parents. Two babies. Three double strollers. I am a bit stroller obsessed. We have the Bob Duallie (haven’t used just yet since the girls are not big enough to run with yet). And we have the Bumbleride Indie Twin (Love it for neighborhood walks and leisurely strolls, but not the most practical for everyday errands and such). At the advice of another twin mom, I bought the Snap N Go…I didn’t want to – after all it is plastic and pretty ugly. But wow this thing is so easy to use when I am out alone with the girls and easy to maneuver with one hand (leaving the other to shop with…). Ugly or not, the easy and cheap Double Snap N Go is an absolute must have.

 9. Chicco Keyfit 30 car seats. These car seats are approved for preemies 4 pounds and bigger. We first bought Graco carseats with a pattern that I loved. The NICU had us return them to buy the Chicco. The girls both passed their car seat tests, they are lightweight and easy to carry two at a time…love them. We lost one of the seat pad inserts (still a mystery where it ended up!), so I called Chicco to order another one. For $12 they sent me a replacement and it arrived in 2 days! Great customer service. Buy them!

 8. Fisher-Price Newborn Rock & Play Sleeper. Two of them in your bedroom…critically necessary for the first three months (and counting!). We each have one sleeper next to each of us and the girls are now sleeping in them up to 8 hours each night. These keep them on an incline, reduce reflux and are easy to move around the house for impromptu napping. Must have. Period. Must. Best money you will spend.

 7. Fisher-Price Papasan Cradle Swing – My Little Lamb. The big one. The girls rotate using this when one is feeding and the other is fussy. They are HUGE and expensive, so we only bought one, but baby is it worth it. They love it. Immediately calms whichever one is in it, which is great because if you are feeding the other one or changing one, etc. you cannot attend to both at the same time. If we had tons of room we would probably buy a second one, but our house is small!

 6. The Miracle Blanket. Get one for each baby you have. They will not want to share and you will greatly benefit from having two sleeping babies! It is the best swaddle. As bragged about above, both girls are sleeping up to 8 hours at night…but only when we swaddle them with this particular swaddle. A good swaddle is huge for a preemie (which most twins are) because it mimics the womb. I like my babies swaddled. And I like them swaddled tight.

 5. Medela Symphony breast pump. I rented mine from a local store. Many hospitals rent them as well. If you are pumping for twins, don’t mess around with the pumps you can buy at a store – they are no where near powerful enough for how much milk you will need to produce and how quickly you will need to produce it!

4. Moby wrap. I am wrap obsessed. Chances are, if you stop by my house I am wearing one if not two babies. All. The. Time. I have bought three other wraps, but I keep coming back to the Moby. People say it is hard to use or that there is too much fabric. Bull. It is fabulous. I can now tie it without using a mirror and the girls love it. In fact, Daphne is asleep in it now while I am writing this!

 3. Graco Sweet Slumber Sound Machine. Small, portable and plays multiple sounds. We moved ours to the master bedroom and keep it on all the time. I prefer the rain and bird sounds. Puts the girls to sleep and I really believe it helps them relax at night. On a whim, I put this on our registry and am so glad I did. It was an awesome gift to receive and one of the most useful so far.

 2. Diaper Genie II Elite Diaper Disposal System. I’ll admit: I have talked a lot of trash about diaper genies in the past (pun totally intended). But with two babies (or for that matter any amount of baby(ies)!) and all the dirty diapers they produce (sorry, but I only use disposable diapers…much praise to those of you who are more eco-conscious than I am, but over my dead body am I scrapping poo into a toilet…yack)…must. have. Our house smells great at all times.

 1. California Baby Calendula Cream.  Nature’s First-Aid! As the description states, California Baby Calendula Cream is excellent for use on general diaper area, cradle cap, on cuts and scrapes, and may be used on face and body for extra-dry or sensitive skin. Botanically based, our light and fluffy Calendula Cream contains the active ingredient of Calendula, which has been used to heal the skin for centuries. California Baby Calendula Cream offers deep hydration, absorbs completely, and leaves skin feeling satiny smooth. I’ve been using it on both girls’ sweet faces at night (and mine too!) as part of our bedtime routine and on any little scratches (from those pesky finger nails that grow like weeds), etc. If I notice a scratch on one of the girl’s faces I immediately apply some cream and – ta da! – the scratch literally disappears by the next morning. It smells like heaven, is lightweight and the girls and I love it. You will too.

What am I missing out on? Any suggestions of must-haves for the next 3 months?

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Valentina Vassallo Pollard started …just breathe… in May 2010 when, after many months, she found herself still holding her breath in hopes of a positive pregnancy test. After a year and a half long journey through the trenches of infertility, she is now living her very own happy ending beginning – a successful first round of IVF resulting in a healthy pregnancy with twin girls. Valentina is busy adjusting to the wonderful world of mommyhood with the arrival of her girls, now three months old. She is passionate about spreading the word about infertility treatments and the options available to families. She writes about her experiences, hopes, dreams and shopping binges (now mostly baby related) on her blog – www.just-breathe-blog.blogspot.com. Valentina lives in Austin, Texas with her very handsome (and patient) husband, Blake.

The Kegel Controversy

Thursday, October 20th, 2011

by Missy Lavender of Women’s Health Foundation

The Kegel Controversy

So, here’s what happened. Waaaay back in May, biomedical scientist Katy Bowman caused quite a ripple in the blogosphere when, during an interview about pelvic fitness on the blog Mama Sweat, she said, “Ditch the kegels.”

Bowman’s actual statement was this: “A kegel attempts to strengthen the PF, but it really only continues to pull the sacrum inward promoting even more weakness, and more PF gripping.” (PF=pelvic floor)

“The muscles that balance out the anterior pull on the sacrum are the glutes. A lack of glutes (having no butt) is what makes this group so much more susceptible to PFD. Zero lumbar curvature (missing the little curve at the small of the back) is the most telling sign that the PF is beginning to weaken. Deep, regular squats (pictured in hunter-gathering mama) create the posterior pull on the sacrum. Peeing like this in the shower is a great daily practice, as is relaxing the PF muscles to make sure that you’re not squeezing the bathroom muscle closers too tight. Just close them enough… An easier way to say this is: Weak glutes + too many Kegels = PFD.”

It was a hugely popular post, drawing in over a hundred comments and questions and prompted a follow-up question where Bowman went into far more detail on her position. She posted about the story on her own blog and then even faced someone called the Kegel Queen, respectfully interviewing her majesty and sharing her position.

So, here is our own respectful response- if kegels are performed correctly and regularly, medical research shows that they do work!

Proper alignment is important in any exercise program; You’ve heard Diane Lee, world-class Canadian physiotherapist, lament on this blog the related alignment “no no” – “butt clenching”!  Butt clenching sends that tailbone in the wrong direction (i.e. tucked under), which affects not only the pelvic floor, but the low back and entire pelvic alignment.

At WHF, we wish for all women to consider themselves “Kegel queens” (matter of fact, we want a crown too!) and that every woman have, at some point in her life, a “Kegel coach.”  Why not? Why not ask someone to check your alignment, function, exercise routine, breathing – I mean, we do it every day at the gym with our bicep curls or chest presses.  I know, I know, these muscles are tough to check out at the gym, but they AREN’T tough to check.  You just need your coach.

We continue to beat the drum for pelvic floor physical therapists, pelvic floor friendly nurses and even that occasional, amazing doctor who actually works with women of all ages to identify, isolate and maintain the health and function of their pelvic floors. These are the coaches that really put the “personal” in personal training!

Our DVD walks you through a (SFW) pelvic floor workout, then puts this important muscle group together with other muscles in the Pelvic Pyramid – ’cause as we know for everyone in this field, everything needs to work together to keep us pain free, leak free, drop free and SEXY!

Thank you, ladies, for the chatter – as Coco Chanel said, “Even bad publicity is good publicity.”  And our friendly pelvic floor muscles need all the PR they can get.  Don’t forget them; remember it’s truly, “Move It or Lose It!” in our field.

Photo Credit: Like the Grand Canyon

This post originally appeared here.

Postpartum Depression-talk about it NOW.

Monday, October 17th, 2011

by Melissa Meuzelaar of The Expectant Life

Postpartum Depression- talk about it NOW.

Upon discovering that I was pregnant the first time, my husband and I began to have conversations about what the pregnancy might be like for both of us. These conversations were basically initiated by me saying,

so, you know I’m going to have boatloads of hormones coursing through my veins and the book says that this may cause my mood to be unusually awful erratic. And I might be more emotional than usual and there’s a chance I’ll make requests that seem unreasonable from time to time. Um, so what do you think about that?

The look on his face was priceless, but so was the conversation that followed, in the meaningful sort of way. Not only did we talk about the emotional and physical changes that I might experience during pregnancy, but we also talked about the challenges my husband might face during the pregnancy too. We talked about the fact that it might take longer for the reality of the baby to set in since he wasn’t the one directly experiencing the hormonal coup d’etat physical and emotional changes. Other topics that were part of these conversations included the challenge he might face to love me when said hormones take over, ways in which he could bond with the baby via touch and talking to the belly, and the financial pressures he might feel as we moved in the direction of going down to one main salary. I think back to these conversations and I’m so thankful that we had them, as some of those very challenges came into play and as a result, we felt more prepared to navigate them when they did.

Surprisingly though, the one challenge we didn’t face in the first pregnancy was the erratic mood on my part. I kept waiting to have emotional meltdowns and crazy intense reactions to very non-intense situations and yet they never came…during that pregnancy! However, here I find myself 30 weeks pregnant with my second child and it’s a whole different story! My mood was all over the place and I found myself to be dramatically more reactive, or ‘prickly’ as my husband likes to call it. I felt so dramatic, I was convinced I was having a girl (so you can imagine my surprise when I saw that little appendage on the ultrasound!). And the funny thing is, this time it took us almost an entire trimester to figure out what was happening in me because we didn’t have that conversation at the beginning of the pregnancy. Given that I pretty much sailed through my last pregnancy emotionally, we just expected it to be the same way this time around. But au contraire! For a while, I think my hubby was wondering what happened to his loving wife and to be honest, I was too. I would cry over the littlest things and would get so frustrated with myself and my reactions, I wanted to jump out of my own skin at times. Finally, (you’d think it would have happened sooner) my husband and I both realized that I was not myself, that it wasn’t just me being mean and lashing out, but that I was really being taken for a ride by these hormones. Not that I want to blame it all on the hormones, but I truly didn’t feel like myself and I felt very out of control in my own body. Once we were able to talk through this, both of us felt like we had a much deeper understanding of what was going on, and thus both able to have more patience with me! It’s been a much smoother ride ever since.

I share all of this, because I’ve come to identify two things that can be really beneficial to the pregnancy journey.

1. The first is simply having those conversations with your partner and creating space for each person to have their own unique experience during the pregnancy.

2. The second is to discuss expectations and possible challenges that might arise, and the possibility that unexpected challenges may arise too. And I encourage these conversations regardless of whether it’s your first pregnancy or not. Clearly, as evidenced by my life, each pregnancy can be very different! And give yourself and your partner permission to have different experiences and emotions throughout this pregnancy.

One potential challenge that my husband and I discussed during the last pregnancy was that of Post-Partum Depression (PPD). We talked about the warning signs and symptoms and the possibility that I might not even be able to recognize it in myself. I wanted to know my husband was fully aware of the symptoms too so that if needed, amidst the sleep deprivation and unfamiliarity with being parents, he might be able to recognize the symptoms in me if I couldn’t. Symptoms include, loss of appetite, insomnia, intense irritability and anger, overwhelming fatigue, loss of interest in sex, lack of joy in life, feelings of shame, guilt or inadequacy, severe mood swings, difficulty bonding with the baby, withdrawal from family and friends, thoughts of harming yourself or your baby. Post-Partum Depression may appear at first to be the Baby Blues because the symptoms of Baby Blues are similar, including mood swings, anxiety, sadness, irritability, crying, decreased concentration, and trouble sleeping. However, unlike the symptoms of the Baby Blues, which typically only last a few days or weeks, the symptoms of PPD will last longer, be more intense in nature, and may begin to interfere with your ability to care for your baby.

According to the Mayo Clinic, the risk of Post-partum Depression increases with any of the following:

  • You have a history of depression (or bipolar disorder), either during pregnancy or at other times
  • You had postpartum depression after a previous pregnancy
  • You’ve experienced stressful events during the past year, including illness, job loss or pregnancy complications
  • You’re having problems in your relationship with your spouse or significant other
  • You have a weak support system
  • You have financial problems
  • The pregnancy was unplanned or unwanted

While I do not have any of the risk factors mentioned above, I am still concerned about the possibility of PPD after this birth, given that my pregnancy has been so much more emotional than the last one. So, you can better believe that my husband and I have talked about it and are formulating somewhat of a plan, just in case. The plan includes involving other people in my support system, calling the doctor, reducing the expectations I have for myself, bringing in help with the house and the baby, and seeing a therapist if necessary.

I should mention that it’s very possible for men to experience PPD as well. And both men and women might feel embarrassed or ashamed and hesitant to admit that they are experiencing symptoms. Yet, I really believe that talking about this together with your partner and friends can help to both recognize symptoms and take appropriate actions without embarrassment. The Mayo Clinic recommends that you call the doctor if symptoms don’t fade after two weeks, are getting worse, make it hard for you to care for your baby, make it hard to complete everyday tasks, and include any thoughts of harming yourself or your baby. I’m encouraged that more women and men are talking about their experiences with Post-Partum Depression and therefore, there are more resources and help available for those who struggle with it.

So, as I hit the home stretch, I’m grateful to have had these conversations with my husband. While we can’t ever be fully prepared for what comes down the pike, we can at least have it on our radar. So, talk it up, I say, talk it up!

Resource: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/postpartum-depression/DS00546

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Melissa lives, works, and plays outside of Denver, Coloradowith her husband, son, and ultra-sweet but ultra-needy Golden Retriever, Samaya. She is a mostly stay-at-home mama to her bundle of boy, Ben, and when she’s not wiping up drool or playing peek-a-boo with her son, she works part-time in her private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor. Melissa’s latest challenge is that of attempting to juggle the four main hats she sports, those of wife, mother, friend, and therapist. She views life as a journey and considers her life’s work to be that of walking alongside people on the journey, whether it’s her hubby, son, friends, or clients. And she is a strong believer in living life to the fullest, which for her involves playing in the great outdoors every chance she gets. When given a spare couple of hours, she can be found running, biking, hiking, skiing, and backpacking in her backyard, aka the Rocky Mountains. Aside from active pursuits, creating and writing are essential to Melissa’s life. She likens writing to using a pair of binoculars, allowing her to focus in on the beauty that lies in the messiness of the mundane. You can find more of Melissa’s writing on her blog, The Expectant Life.