By Valentina Pollard of Just Breathe

My Top 10 Must-Haves: The First 3 Months

Daphne and Poppy are now 3 months old! I cannot believe it. They have been home from the NICU for longer than they were there…and the days are flying by (although some more smoothly than others). During this time there have been some items that have made our lives much, much easier. I have listed my very favorite must-haves below. Please note that this list is made with twins in mind. Of course, it applies to all babies (just don’t buy as much if you have one baby instead of two…or buy more if you have three or four)!

 10. Baby Trend Double Snap N Go Stroller. Confession: We have three double strollers. Two parents. Two babies. Three double strollers. I am a bit stroller obsessed. We have the Bob Duallie (haven’t used just yet since the girls are not big enough to run with yet). And we have the Bumbleride Indie Twin (Love it for neighborhood walks and leisurely strolls, but not the most practical for everyday errands and such). At the advice of another twin mom, I bought the Snap N Go…I didn’t want to – after all it is plastic and pretty ugly. But wow this thing is so easy to use when I am out alone with the girls and easy to maneuver with one hand (leaving the other to shop with…). Ugly or not, the easy and cheap Double Snap N Go is an absolute must have.

 9. Chicco Keyfit 30 car seats. These car seats are approved for preemies 4 pounds and bigger. We first bought Graco carseats with a pattern that I loved. The NICU had us return them to buy the Chicco. The girls both passed their car seat tests, they are lightweight and easy to carry two at a time…love them. We lost one of the seat pad inserts (still a mystery where it ended up!), so I called Chicco to order another one. For $12 they sent me a replacement and it arrived in 2 days! Great customer service. Buy them!

 8. Fisher-Price Newborn Rock & Play Sleeper. Two of them in your bedroom…critically necessary for the first three months (and counting!). We each have one sleeper next to each of us and the girls are now sleeping in them up to 8 hours each night. These keep them on an incline, reduce reflux and are easy to move around the house for impromptu napping. Must have. Period. Must. Best money you will spend.

 7. Fisher-Price Papasan Cradle Swing – My Little Lamb. The big one. The girls rotate using this when one is feeding and the other is fussy. They are HUGE and expensive, so we only bought one, but baby is it worth it. They love it. Immediately calms whichever one is in it, which is great because if you are feeding the other one or changing one, etc. you cannot attend to both at the same time. If we had tons of room we would probably buy a second one, but our house is small!

 6. The Miracle Blanket. Get one for each baby you have. They will not want to share and you will greatly benefit from having two sleeping babies! It is the best swaddle. As bragged about above, both girls are sleeping up to 8 hours at night…but only when we swaddle them with this particular swaddle. A good swaddle is huge for a preemie (which most twins are) because it mimics the womb. I like my babies swaddled. And I like them swaddled tight.

 5. Medela Symphony breast pump. I rented mine from a local store. Many hospitals rent them as well. If you are pumping for twins, don’t mess around with the pumps you can buy at a store – they are no where near powerful enough for how much milk you will need to produce and how quickly you will need to produce it!

4. Moby wrap. I am wrap obsessed. Chances are, if you stop by my house I am wearing one if not two babies. All. The. Time. I have bought three other wraps, but I keep coming back to the Moby. People say it is hard to use or that there is too much fabric. Bull. It is fabulous. I can now tie it without using a mirror and the girls love it. In fact, Daphne is asleep in it now while I am writing this!

 3. Graco Sweet Slumber Sound Machine. Small, portable and plays multiple sounds. We moved ours to the master bedroom and keep it on all the time. I prefer the rain and bird sounds. Puts the girls to sleep and I really believe it helps them relax at night. On a whim, I put this on our registry and am so glad I did. It was an awesome gift to receive and one of the most useful so far.

 2. Diaper Genie II Elite Diaper Disposal System. I’ll admit: I have talked a lot of trash about diaper genies in the past (pun totally intended). But with two babies (or for that matter any amount of baby(ies)!) and all the dirty diapers they produce (sorry, but I only use disposable diapers…much praise to those of you who are more eco-conscious than I am, but over my dead body am I scrapping poo into a toilet…yack)…must. have. Our house smells great at all times.

 1. California Baby Calendula Cream.  Nature’s First-Aid! As the description states, California Baby Calendula Cream is excellent for use on general diaper area, cradle cap, on cuts and scrapes, and may be used on face and body for extra-dry or sensitive skin. Botanically based, our light and fluffy Calendula Cream contains the active ingredient of Calendula, which has been used to heal the skin for centuries. California Baby Calendula Cream offers deep hydration, absorbs completely, and leaves skin feeling satiny smooth. I’ve been using it on both girls’ sweet faces at night (and mine too!) as part of our bedtime routine and on any little scratches (from those pesky finger nails that grow like weeds), etc. If I notice a scratch on one of the girl’s faces I immediately apply some cream and – ta da! – the scratch literally disappears by the next morning. It smells like heaven, is lightweight and the girls and I love it. You will too.

What am I missing out on? Any suggestions of must-haves for the next 3 months?

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Valentina Vassallo Pollard started …just breathe… in May 2010 when, after many months, she found herself still holding her breath in hopes of a positive pregnancy test. After a year and a half long journey through the trenches of infertility, she is now living her very own happy ending beginning – a successful first round of IVF resulting in a healthy pregnancy with twin girls. Valentina is busy adjusting to the wonderful world of mommyhood with the arrival of her girls, now three months old. She is passionate about spreading the word about infertility treatments and the options available to families. She writes about her experiences, hopes, dreams and shopping binges (now mostly baby related) on her blog – www.just-breathe-blog.blogspot.com. Valentina lives in Austin, Texas with her very handsome (and patient) husband, Blake.

by Sarah Blight, Founder of Your Baby Booty

Babywearing Rocks. Literally.

Why are we (US residents) the last to pick up on the age old secrets of babydom?

I love technology… a lot… but somehow our technocentric lives have cut us out of the loop of sage baby wisdom that has worked long before technology was the mainstay in our lives.

For example, did you know that in the rest of the world babies’ cries are measured in minutes? For us, in the US of A, we measure them in hours! Hours! The rest of the world doesn’t tolerate their babies crying for hours on end, so why should we? What’s the secret to soothing and calming baby that we’re not privy to?

Let me ask you a question:

Do you wear your baby?

Well, let’s see. If you were pregnant and gave birth to your child, you wore him or her on the inside of your body for (let’s just round up and call it a year, shall we?).  That counts as baby wearing for sure.

If your children came to you by way of adoption then I’m sure you wore your heart for adoption and your child on your sleeves  during the entire, paperwork intensive experience. That counts as babywearing.

But we’re not really talking either of these scenarios, we’re talking about babywearing on your person.

After I first had our son, I wasn’t sure what a baby carrier was exactly. I was confused between infant car seats, baby bouncers, baby swings and then a baby carrier? Whaaa?  I finally realized that if I ever had hopes of doing anything around the house again, I needed to figure out a way to strap baby to me- {light bulb moment…oh! So THAT’s what those are for!}  Call me a bit dense, but it did take me awhile to realize that the SleepyWrap and the Ergo were all ways to let your little one be held by you, hands-free.

Bliss.

Research shows that babywearing has many benefits for your baby (and baby’s parents too!):

1. Babies are smarter- all those neurons are firing and connections are being made because the baby is close to you and soaking up all that is around you. Conversely, you can shield your baby from being overly stimulated, protecting their developing nervous system.

2. Babies cry less-check out the National Geographic Channel or simply do an image search for mothers and babies in different countries. The vast majority of the world’s mothers, wear their babies. Anthropologists have found that those babies are happier and cry less. If you’re like most women, the very sound of your baby crying is like nails on a chalkboard, or mosquitos buzzing around your earlobes all while your milk is leaking from your boobs. Sooo this is very, very good news for us all.

3. Babies become better organized- All you super organized people are LOVING this one aren’t you? Dr. Sears recommends parents wear their babies for an additional 9 months after birth. Imagine as a new baby the culture shock of being out of the womb and being by yourself in a lonely bassinet or bouncy seat, away from the cozy confines of mama’s womb. When you wear your baby, they are soothed by the rhythm of your walk (and probably think- this is familiar!), your voice, your heartbeat and the closeness to you. This helps them organize or regulate their systems.

Okay, are you a convert? Or do you need more proof?

4. It’s a good work out for you- finding time to exercise and get back in shape after baby is difficult, strapping on your baby to do housework or spend time with friends, or chase your other kiddos is a great way to get exercise and have super important bonding time with baby.

5. It’s inexpensive- Baby carriers often times cost less than expensive strollers or swings or bouncy seats and slings are even less expensive and a great way to wear baby. There were some safety issues in the news about slings but not all slings are created equal. This is a great resource to see how to wear slings correctly and what NOT to buy with regards to slings.

So go for it mama (and papas!!), wear your baby long and proud. Baby will cry less and flourish from the closeness. You will look back on your time and wonder how it went by so quickly and will long for those days of babywearing again.

Sources-

Dr. Sears

The Natural Child Project

Good article here.

Excerpt from a research article.

*photo credit- the eye candy in the pic up there? Yep, that’s Steve (Mr. YourBabyBooty) with our bro-in-law.

by Melissa of The Expectant Life

Your Body During Pregnancy

Standing in the grocery store line last week, I couldn’t help but be assaulted by notice the magazine headlines clamoring for my attention: “10 Tips to Get a Hot Body Now;” “Swimsuits That Slim You Instantly;” “Four kids, no time, this body…find out how she does it.;” “How to Get the Body of Your Favorite Celeb;” “5 cellulite fixes that actually work;” “The trick to getting rid of your double chin;” “Down 35 lbs and already rockin’ a bikini bod just 5 weeks after giving birth.”

I wanted to burn them all, the magazines that is, not because I wouldn’t love to have the body of a celebrity or lose my double chin, but because I tire of the messages our culture sends to women about their bodies. Messages like, you have to be skinny to be sexy, you’ll only be desired for your outward beauty, you’re identity is in how you look, and on and on they go. They’re sometimes subtle, sometimes blatant, but either way they tend to leave women feeling dissatisfied with their bodies and under constant pressure to look a certain way.

I’m very much for healthy eating, being fit and in shape, and taking care of your body. But I’m also for balance, accepting the body you’ve been given, and rockin’ what you got! The journey to have a healthy body image has been life-long for me. And not long after I hit my stride as I rolled into my 30’s, feeling really comfortable in my own skin, did I get pregnant. At first, there wasn’t much of a physical change, at least outwardly. Yet the hormones kicked in immediately, ‘the girls’ began to ache, and my tummy began to rebel. And shortly thereafter, the visible signs appeared as my belly began to burgeon, along with other parts of me that unexpectedly burgeoned too! For me, it was my backside, my bum, my derriere, whatever you want to call it. When I’m preggo, it grows at approximately the same pace as my belly. Perhaps it’s attempting to even things out, so as to keep me balanced, or at least that’s what I tell myself anyway!

Every woman is different and thus, the shape that a pregnancy takes varies from body to body. The one certainty is that your body will change when you’re pregnant. How do you handle this change? Some women welcome it completely, taking great comfort and joy in the fact that this ever expanding body is growing another human being. But many women I’ve talked to experience mixed feelings, the comfort and joy mentioned above, meshed with a struggle to love their widening, softening, and ever growing body.

An even greater challenge for many women, me included, is that of embracing our bodies which are forever changed once we’ve pushed out that bowling ball-sized bundle of love. No one warned me that I would still look pregnant AFTER I gave birth! I remember having a friend come to visit me in the hospital the day that my son was born. I was in the bathroom when she arrived and as I came out, I felt the need to warn her, “I swear I gave birth today, but I still look pregnant!” This not to mention that I was incredibly swollen EVERYWHERE due to the IV that had to be pumped through me for 45 hours. I look back at pictures of me with my family, shortly after Ben’s birth, and let’s just say, it’s hard for me to see myself in that state.

I immediately loved my sweet baby boy more than I ever thought I could love someone who wasn’t my husband, but I struggled to accept all the jiggle in places I never knew could jiggle and that I weighed more than I ever had in my life even though I was sans baby in the belly. But through the years, I’ve come to realize that body image or how I feel about my body is really a matter of perception and attitude. I know women who at 39 weeks pregnant, if you looked at them from the backside, you wouldn’t be able to tell they were pregnant. And those same women slid back into their size 2 skinny jeans just days after giving birth. Yet, in talking with some of those women, they too, identified parts of their bodies with which they were dissatisfied. As someone who will NEVER don a pair of skinny jeans (due to calves that are about the same size as my thighs, ok not quite, but you get the picture), I initially thought to myself, ‘but how in the world could you be dissatisfied with your body when you look like THAT?’ But I was quickly reminded that no matter our shape or size, we as women can always find parts of our bodies that we don’t like, often times much more easily than we can identify the parts we’re happy with. All too often, I think we waste a lot of energy being mad at our bodies, rather than making friends with them.

Long before my baby-making days, in effort to ‘make friends with my body,’ I began asking myself this question from time to time, “Right now, is your body a stranger, enemy, or friend?” I began to explore my views and beliefs towards my body and where those were coming from. I found that many of my beliefs came from what culture was telling me I was supposed to look like rather than what my preferences were or what made me feel good.

After giving birth, I desperately needed to revisit the stranger, enemy, or friend question. I also realized that I needed to spend some time reflecting on the awesome feats my body had just pulled off. As I did, I began to thank my body. It may sound corny, but sometimes a little heart to heart, or rather heart to thighs dialogue is necessary for me. And as I listen to my body, and sit in awe of everything my body does for me on a daily basis, I am filled with gratitude, able to more easily accept my not-so-favorite-parts.

So, if this hits home for you in any way, I’ll leave you with a few questions and thoughts to ponder:

1. Right now, do you see your body as a stranger, enemy, or friend?

2. What attitude do you have towards your body today? Positive or negative? Grateful or disparaging?

3. Make a list of the amazing things your body has done for you today. Perhaps you could start with the fact that your body woke up this morning breathing!

4. What have you done to love your body today? Maybe start with thinking about what things you could actually do to love your body. Here are a few that I like: feeding it healthy foods, exercise, warm bath

5. Think of something that makes you feel beautiful, not beautiful in the “so and so told me I totally rock those jeans” kind of beautiful, but something that makes you feel beautiful inside and out.  For me, it’s going for a hike or a run, somewhere in nature. Something about the sun shining on my face, the wind blowing in my hair, and my body carrying me up a hill leaves me feeling strong and beautiful. Whatever it is for you, DO IT!

6. What does it look like for you to accept what you’re not and embrace all that you are, when it comes to your body?

As my second pregnancy ensues, it once again is debatable as to whether the baby is growing in my belly or my bum, but I’m in a much better place this time around to be friends with my burgeoning backside. I’m choosing to treat my body right, eating healthy and exercising, and I feel good. Everyday, I make it a practice to thank my body for its willingness to undergo such duress, so as to grant me with another beautiful family member to love. After all, we only have one body, so I say, love the one you’re with!

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more about our Booty Blogger:

Melissa lives, works, and plays outside of Denver, Colorado with her husband, son, and ultra-sweet but ultra-needy Golden Retriever, Samaya. She is a mostly stay-at-home mama to her bundle of boy, Ben, and when she’s not wiping up drool or playing peek-a-boo with her son, she works part-time in her private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor. Melissa’s latest challenge is that of attempting to juggle the four main hats she sports, those of wife, mother, friend, and therapist. She views life as a journey and considers her life’s work to be that of walking alongside people on the journey, whether it’s her hubby, son, friends, or clients. And she is a strong believer in living life to the fullest, which for her involves playing in the great outdoors every chance she gets. When given a spare couple of hours, she can be found running, biking, hiking, skiing, and backpacking in her backyard, aka the Rocky Mountains. Aside from active pursuits, creating and writing are essential to Melissa’s life. She likens writing to using a pair of binoculars, allowing her to focus in on the beauty that lies in the messiness of the mundane. You can find more of Melissa’s writing on her blog, The Expectant Life.

by Vanessa of Silly Eagle Books

Exercise and Pregnancy: gettin’ in the pool

Athletic is the last word I (or anyone else) would use to describe myself. However, in my childhood and in the late 90′s, I actually spent many an hour in the pool. Not just splashing around, but wearing a Speedo and doing laps. Lots of them. I was pretty much on a swim team from 8th grade until my senior year in college. And although I was never very fast (kind of a key factor in the whole race situation), I did learn how to enjoy a good water workout.

During both my pregnancies, I found myself in our neighborhood pool almost every evening during the summer months. And not surprisingly, it did me a lot of good. Here are a few reasons why you should try it for yourself.

1. You can’t fall.

As any pregnant woman will tell you, balance becomes a challenge once the baby bump starts to pop out. Even in the early months, you suddenly find yourself falling forward, leaning sideways, and generally wobbling about. I swear off step-stools at around month three for fear of toppling off. The nice thing about swimming or walking in a pool is that the water surrounds you, cradles you, and keeps you upright. And even if you do lose your balance in there, it’s no big deal because you’ll just sink softly into the water.

2. You lose weight.

Not literally (I’m not advocating weight-loss while pregnant!), but you feel as if you have lost all the baby weight. The force that usually pulls your belly downward is suddenly and refreshingly gone. You can hop and dance and feel like your old self in the water. Not only do you lose weight, but your older children do as well. If you have a 20+ pound child who still likes to be held, pool time is the perfect time to do it. You can hold her in your arms like the old days and she will feel as light as a feather. I enjoyed holding my three year old in the pool this past summer when I was eight months pregnant. She loved having some time in my arms again, too.

3. You can buy a swim suit that you will grow into.

Usually buying a swim suit is one of the most painful tasks of the year because it involves high hopes that I will lose some weight in order to fit into a certain suit. Buying a maternity suit is exactly the opposite. Instead of buying small and hoping I’ll fit eventually, I buy big and expect to fill it out! Glorious. (Here’s an especially cute one.)

4. You can hide the bump.

I know it’s fun to show off the baby bump, but there are times when I just want to hide it and get a break from the running commentary from random strangers. If you stand in the pool near the wall or sit on the steps with a submerged belly, you look like any other woman in the pool and you can get a short respite from people rubbing your belly, telling you that you are definitely having a boy (even though you are definitely having a girl), and other annoying and unsolicited advice. Of course, once you step out, people will feel prompted to say things like, “Wow! You must be due any day now!” (Actually, I have six months left.) “Twins, right?” (Wrong.), and the every popular “Snack time, again?” (Yes. Yes, it is.)

5. You can relieve joint pressure.

My hip joints always ache when I’m pregnant and swimming is one of the few ways I’ve found to get a little relief. Slow easy laps with plenty of breaks always seems to loosen up my joints and get me back to a less painful place for a few hours. It’s also nice for working out some of that lower back pressure.

6. You can cool off.

Am I the only one who feels like I’m stuck inside an oven for nine months while pregnant? If you are unlucky enough to go through four months of 100+ degree days while pregnant, then jumping in the pool may be the only way to get a little relief from the heat. Water–especially cool water–is always good for taking the body temp down a few degrees.

And of course, there are the exercise benefits of swimming which you are probably already familiar with. You can get your heart rate up, improve your flexibility, posture, muscle tone, etc. Plus, you get to wear goggles.

And don’t forget those cute maternity swim suits.

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Vanessa is the mother of two beautiful girls–Juliet and Lucia. Before she was a mom, she spent her days teaching a little bit of English and a lot more “please be quiet” to high school students and her nights…wait for it…SLEEPING. Now her days are spent reading books, crafting, and chasing the cat around the house while her nights are filled with significantly less sleep and a lot more “please be quiet.” She writes about children’s books, crafting, and learning activities for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers at Silly Eagle Books.

By Emily Arters of The Monkey Barrel

First Birthday Freak Out

When I gave birth to my first bundle of joy, John, I was somewhat of a babycare pro. I’d been a nanny for a few years and was well versed in the art. It was a rocky start though since I now had to  figure out whether to breast or bottle feed,  navigate a few other tiny hiccups, and then I couldn’t just send him home at night when I was ready to make dinner. Over all though, John was an easy baby and his first year was pretty darn blissful. I’m hoping that doesn’t sound brag-a-docious, we were just really blessed with a content and happy baby. As his first year came to a close, the one thing I had not prepared for, had not considered, had not even given thought to was his first birthday party.

{Enter stormy music accompanied by panicked, frazzled mom with no clue.}

Just like everything else with your first kid, (and second, third, and fourth) everyone has an opinion or an expectation. With so many ideas coming at me, my head became a tiny freaked out tornado. I pelted the hubs with question after question until his wits nearly took leave. He started holing up in his office with headphones on, “work” projects to finish just so I’d stop asking about color swatches, cartoon characters, and present ideas. After much agonizing and deliberation on my part, -and frankly, peer pressure from all the greatness that Martha Stewart was at the time- we, well… I really… decided to go large. This turned out to be a huge, gigantic mistake.

The balloons were finally bought, presents wrapped, house festooned, gift bags assembled, and the cake was baked and decorated.  John woke up that morning with his first ever stomach flu and barfed for 24 hours straight. Devastated, I called the hordes of potential party goers with a tentative reschedule date for the following week to be sure the whole house was clear and could be disinfected within an inch of its life before we had guests over. Budget blown, half the guests lost to scheduling conflicts, his first party wound up being just close family and John had a great time. This was my first major lesson in how life with kids just doesn’t go as planned.  You either learn to roll with it, or the disappointment gets the better of you.

As a result I became a better and more flexible party planner. Smaller gatherings are always better for the first year. Until they’re four or five they don’t have much of an idea what’s going on, so it’s better to save the big ideas until they can actually enjoy them. I’ve seen the recommendations that the number of years your celebrating should equal the number of kids, but in most cases that’s really not feasible. For us, by the time you make it just through the immediate family list you’re already up to 10 or 12 kids. Yes, there will be friends who are offended they weren’t invited and maybe even extended family, but let’s face it, they’re always aggravated for some reason or another and for once they have a tiny reason. They can deal, people!

When throwing a baby soiree, keep it simple folks, m-kay??

Things to do at your kid’s first birthday party

1. Choose party themes that center around the things they really enjoy. That may mean you won’t find paper products, decorations, gift bags, wrapping paper, and cake accessories to match but honestly at one, they’re licking paper towels, eating paper scraps and lint balls, and surviving on the free range cheerios from off the floor anyway. Beyond a cursory glance at the balloons, they really don’t care about anything else.

2. Go to the hardware store and find various sizes of packing boxes for them to crawl in and out of.

3. Buy a giant bag of ball pit balls and an inflatable baby pool. Have fun with it!

4. Try bubbles and bubble machines for a theme.

5. Frankly just have a nice water table and loads of cups and utensils to play with in it. The baby will have a blast, your budget will remain unscathed, and you will have delightful memories of a way less stressful celebration of making it together through their first year of life.

On Gift Giving

The gifting aspect alone to the party may feel like the end of your sanity. Don’t stress!! Remember the baby has no clue what the green stuff in your wallet is nor how much or how little is in there. If you’re crafty, there’s about a bazillion blogs with cute tutorials on all manner of things you can create. If you’re not crafty check out the bookstore for a new pile of board books. Check your local Taps store for some developmental toys that are unusual and age appropriate. Heed the age recommendations on the packaging! We learned a few hard lessons believing our child was more “advanced” than he really was to figure some of those things out. Doh! Either way you go, remember the amount of new things can become overwhelming because they’re getting more gifts than just yours. Overspending just makes for an irritable you later. Once again, the baby is completely oblivious.

Ultimately, we just want to celebrate our kids. That first year is monumental for both them and for you.  You get to look back to see how far you’ve made it since you graduated Lamaze, how they slapped you on the back and sent you bewildered into the world to go have a baby.. ACK! From the moment they placed that beautiful, crying, demanding, living piece of your heart into your arms, and all of the next 364 days, you accomplished so much more than you both thought capable. That’s definitely worthy of acknowledging, but not so much that you send yourself to an institution with nightmares of giant inflated cartoon characters, and balloon animals stalking you from the corners of your rooms. Relax and enjoy what you’ve shared. Let the fuss and hoopla go in favor of just a good old fashioned good time.

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About our Booty Blogger:

Emily Arters is an indeterminate 30-ish something age (how dare you ask) wife of Fred, the magnificent, Arters. She is mother of 3 monkeys, John, Luke, and Noah with one more to complete the barrelful due in June. Emily’s occupation, besides the above, is a stay at home, homeschooling mom. Emily became a crafter because she’s a penny pincher and look at things wondering how much cheaper she can make them herself or how much work would it require to refurbish a piece.  She particularly enjoys needle crafts; sewing, knitting, crocheting and so forth.  She also loves to cook and her motto in the kitchen is” Cheap and Easy” !!! (just like her)  Husband hates that she always adds that last part.

More of Emily’s thoughts can be found at The Monkey Barrel .

Reading To Your Baby Can…

by Vanessa of Silly Eagle Books

Reading to your baby can help them to discover a lifelong love of books. It’s never to early to start reading with your baby. In fact, the best way to get your child on a path to loving reading doesn’t really involve much reading at all. All you need are some positive interactions with books and you’ll get him on the right track to loving books his whole life long.

The best time to introduce books to your baby is around 4 months of age. This is when they usually start grabbing objects and putting them in their mouths. I like using crinkly cloth books because they provide both tactile and auditory feedback. Nothing is more satisfying to an infant than crunching and munching on a crinkly cloth book!

He’s going to be chewing on something, why not a book? Give him his own books and have them available all over the house. I like keeping some in my daughter’s bedroom, some in the playroom, a few in the kitchen, and of course, some stashed in the diaper bag for fun on the go. Switch them around from time to time: move the ones in the bedroom to the playroom, etc. Just switching the room seems to make them interesting all over again.

Letting your baby have these early experiences with books sends him a a clear message: books are for me!

The next step is to take a few moments every day to point out objects on the pages. Most cloth books have words in them, but I rarely read what they say. I just look at the colorful pictures and blurt out highly intelligent phrases such as “Look! Fishy!” and “Ohhhh….kitty cat! Meow!” or even “Orange! Orange!” You don’t have to do more than point and name objects at this stage. Make it fun for about a minute or two and then let your baby go back to munching on the pages and waving it over her head. You don’t want to overwhelm her or take the fun out of the experience.

Don’t feel like you have to “read” every page either. If your little one just has enough focus for you to point to one doggy, then so be it. Follow your child’s lead in these early days; you’ll have plenty of time to read stories later when she is older.

Finally, incorporate reading time into your day every day. I like attaching book time to nap and bedtime. By establishing this time now, you will make it easier when you actually do get to the story time stage with your child. Just after I give my daughter her bedtime feed, I let her sit in my lap (facing me with the boppy behind her for support) and play with a book. Sometimes we talk about the pages, sometimes I just let her crinkle it in her hands.

We’re not doing much, but I’m teaching her that reading is important and it’s something we do everyday. One day she won’t even think twice about reading. It will be something she just naturally does before bed like brushing her teeth or taking a bath.

If you are looking for a few good cloth books to add to your child’s library, check out my list of favorites here!

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Vanessa is the mother of two beautiful girls–Juliet and Lucia. Before she was a mom, she spent her days teaching a little bit of English and a lot more “please be quiet” to high school students and her nights…wait for it…SLEEPING. Now her days are spent reading books, crafting, and chasing the cat around the house while her nights are filled with significantly less sleep and a lot more “please be quiet.” She writes about children’s books, crafting, and learning activities for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers at Silly Eagle Books.

It is a new day in the land of baby registration. Not only are there many places to register, there are a myriad of products to choose from. When showing up to register, many expectant mamas arm themselves with:

1.) Enough preggo hormones to blow up the world.

2.) Kind of an idea of what stuff they’d like for baby but no idea if it’s useful, or good, or safe

3.) Sometimes a lackluster sidekick (such as a daddy), whose only joy in this process right now is using the registry “gun”.

These three factors have the makings of a perfect storm. The kind of storm that shows up unexpectedly unleashing its fury and only dies down when exiting the premises or maybe a bit later while in the drive-thru ordering a decaf frappaccino with extra whip cream.

Those who have gone before you can empathize. Anyone who’s been knocked up in the last half decade, can relate to all the choices, choices, choices that are everywhere! It’s easy to think, in the midst of a hormone induced haze, that if you pick the wrong pacifier for your baby, you will screw up its life. Let us assure you.  You won’t. That’s why Your Baby Booty was established, to be the voice of sanity in the midst of the registry storm.

Here are 3 things to consider before you register for all the baby gear:

1.)    How much space do you have to devote to baby stuff? Remember that baby grows very quickly and some things are only used for a couple months before needing some housing in a closet, garage or basement (or under a bed;).

2.)    Are you finding out the gender of your baby? If you are, you can choose gender specific items. If you are planning on having more kiddos, think about things that you can and will want to use for additional babies. Perhaps those items should be more “gender neutral”. Your choice.

3.)    What baby stores are located close to you? Is it important to you that you can register in one place and have the accessibility to return items you decide you don’t need/ want?  Or do you want to be able to choose “off the grid” products that aren’t necessarily available in a store near you, but can be purchased on the internet and shipped to your door? Returning those items may be a bit more inconvenient but it may be worth it to get more unique items that not everyone and their brother (or mother) has for their baby.

Regardless of what you choose, you MUST check out our new favorite online registry called Babylist.  They are a brand spankin’ new website that makes it super easy to register from anywhere on the web. All you do is sign up to get a free account and install the Babylist bookmark on your toolbar. When you’re surfing for baby gear and find that amazing bedding that’s at an online boutique, you just drag and drop it to your Babylist icon and it adds it to your registry! I seriously wish I had this when I was pregnant. No more meandering glassy eyed under the florescent lights of the baby mega store, pointing a gun at random stuff. Nope. You sit on your comfy couch, in your stretchy pants, sipping your beverage of choice, log onto Your Baby Booty, see what you need, browse online, drag and drop items to your Babylist and you’re done. So. Easy. We even made a showcase Babylist with our Budget Mama registry, go here to see it. It only took us 20 minutes to drag and drop these items to our list.

A super sweet bonus is that you can now easily register for things that you could really use, like carpet cleaning, or pet sitting, or a pre-natal massage, baby and me yoga classes, or diaper service or cloth diapers from anywhere on the web! The world wide web is now your oyster mamas!! So go to Babylist now and check it out!

Do you guys think you’d like this way of registering? Let us know!

by Suzi Istvan

I know from experience that the first few days, weeks, and even months after bringing a new baby home can be a blur. Between sleepless nights, seemingly constant feedings, and the hypnotic new hobby of baby-gazing, keeping track of time is virtually impossible. Somewhere in that blur of time, I came across a little gizmo that I would soon refer to as my sanity keeper: The Itzbeen Baby Care Timer.

Its genius in its simplicity; it totally makes sense that this little guy was invented by a new mom and dad grappling with the same time-keeping issues that we’ve all experienced. The Itzbeen has a series of buttons that represent when baby last ate, napped, had a diaper change, or any miscellaneous time that needs to be tracked. Simply touch the diaper button, for example, when you’re finished changing the babe, and the timer starts counting up making it easy to track when you need to check that bum again. This was particularly helpful when switching duties with my husband or when we were working on a sleep schedule. What’s extra nice are the additional features: a right and left switch to keep track of breast-feeding, a soft nightlight for middle of the night care, optional alarms, and a belt clip so my husband could wear the Itzbeen  clipped on his hip like a new dad badge of honor;  Although, I could have lived without that last feature.

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More about our Booty Blogger:

Suzi Istvan is a mom of one rambunctious and adorable three-year old boy. She founded and ran greenmommyguide.com, a website she designed and built herself. She is a lover of technology and gadgets and especially using social media to make life a little easier and often more fun!

by Sarah Blight

I never considered myself a worrier. Then I became a mama and boy did that change. The second I found out I was pregnant I started worrying, and most of my worrying was about things I couldn’t control.

After our son was born, the worrying hit a whole new level. I distinctly remember being in the hospital after I just birthed our kid, the postpartum nurse came in and ripped off our son’s beanie, demanded that I bare it all and stuck our kid’s face on my boob, declaring that, according to his chart, our son had dropped too much weight and needed to eat. The anxiety and anger I felt at that moment was off the charts. The irony is that Lil Man’s eating (or lack thereof) was actually NOT one of the things I worried about. I knew that we just needed some time to figure out the whole “nursing” thing. My instincts kicked in and I became the fierce protector of my son against this (well meaning) but decidedly, abrasive nurse.

As I’ve journeyed down the road of mothahood I’ve decided that if I could put my son in a bubble to live forever and ever, I would. I want to protect him from any and everything that could possibly happen. As soon as he started walking, I went nuts baby proofing. Then I realized unless I remove every single object from our house and live in the simplicity of a monk, our kid will always and I mean ALWAYS find something to get into. So, my job as a parent never ends. There’s no cruise control or moment when I don’t have to pay attention and actually, I like it that way.  It means I don’t get complacent, I don’t reach a point where I sign off and let technology or safety “babysit” for me.  This is an important point, there are lots of “gadgets and gizmos aplenty, there are whozits and whatsits galore, whatchamacallits? I’ve got plenty, but who cares, no big deal, I want more…” Beauty  and the Beast says it best.  I do want more, but what I want more of is actually, less. Make sense?  Bear with me.

There really are amazing gadgets out there for parents and babies. Some of them are helpful, many of them are really unnecessary. At the end of the day nothing can replace a watchful eye, or the super powerful parental instinct that you have. Don’t let anyone or anything take away that power from you. Remember how you are now a Super Hero? Well,  this is YOUR superpower! Lots of baby gadgets can be your kryptonite and keep you from listening, trusting and honing your inner SuperMama!

The Bottom line: when it comes to parenting, you are the expert. I know, I know, it doesn’t feel like that. That doesn’t mean that you always have all the right answers.  Worry creeps in and wants to keep you petrified and reliant on all the “real experts” and baby products out there. But resist and rely on your gut. You know your baby better than anyone. You know what’s normal and what’s not. You know.

So while you can’t keep your baby from every single thing that could ever happen to them. You can do the best to provide a safe, nurturing environment, paying attention and watching what they’re into, trusting your momstincts and reaping the immense rewards of being this little person’s parent.

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